Then his ass is out the door. Mine are under the tree and there is a certain small box that is driving me crazy. I think for women the BEST ADVICE IS UNDERLINE HOW WELL YOUR EXES TREATED YOU. Even if it’s not true. make him work to impress you. Even if your ex just provided materially. that is all. You dont even have to rub it in their face. They will pick up on it if you drop a few clues and hints here or there. Men ARE VERY COMPETITIVE. thank you for coming to my Ted talk
This reminds me of a sad little incident I had last year. There's this particular shop based in Paris that I really like and the guy I was seeing (long distance) knew I was really into their clothes and jewellery. About a week before Christmas I got a notification that I had a package from them. Who else could have sent it to me? It had to be him. I was so elated. When I picked up the package and eagerly opened it I discovered it was a duplicate of an order I'd made for myself months ago - they'd sent to me by accident. What did I get from him? Nothing. Not even a call. A Merry Christmas text. This year I am pleased I have no such disappointments coming my way.
My dumb ass made tenative Christmas plans with a guy I was seeing. I just moved and don't have any family nearby/friends all seemed busy. He broke it off by text late Tues after not answering his phone so now I'm making new plans in the city by myself 🥴 They really do wait until the last minute 😂
(Honestly I'm not really upset, I'm more laughing actually)
My ex made buying bad christmas present a form of art. Last years when we were together I begged him NOT to buy anything for me. Our first Christmas together it was an air purifier. Seriously. I then did this mistake old as time: I tried to communicate. I told him I would love more romantic gifts than practical ones (well... that machine was not even that...).
Next year he made this classic LVM-move and whined about how he can't know what to get for me and just told me to pick my own gift and then with angry face he paid it. I haven't been able to wear those beautiful earings almost ever because they are loaded with memory about how it was a gift he didn't want to give me and was not interested to even try to select it by himself. Well... following years I learned he was completely incompetent with that too:
One year I wished a Chanel parfume. I send him pictures about options. He got completely different parfume (cheaper one, of course). I started to be already so negative about receiving gifts from him, I just told him I'm not going to open the package, but return it and buy the one I really wanted.
Last christmas before I left him I wished a bathrobe. I described how I dream about white, super soft and comfortable, warm robe. He got me a ugly, beige bathrobe made of thin towel fabric. Again the cheaper, low quality option, how else. Again, I told him that was not what I wanted, I'm not going to use it. I returned it and paid the difference to get a bathrobe I wished for.
He went of course full martyr mode every year. "Nothing is ever good enough for you!" (No, crap and junk is definitely NOT good enough for me.) and "How could I know what to get for you?!" (How about actually LISTENING me when I try to tell it?!) Later I realised he probably did all that on purpose, buying me something he knew very well I would not be happy with and then whine about how I'm impossible to please so I would not expect him to get me anything or to put any effort.
My heart hurts for you. They are gifts that can be easily sourced in a department store or online with very little effort.I love ruby jewellery and I had one ex-partner who would buy me garnet jewellery because "it's just like a ruby, but it's cheaper".Whhhhhhhy don't these men actually hear themselves???
This made me want to cry. I'm so glad you're free of that cheap manipulative asshole!
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My LV narc ex once bought me a $5 catalogue of book titles that he said I might be interested in buying…with my own money, of course. We had been married for years and had two children together by then. It was one of the only “gifts” he ever gave me during our entire marriage.
LOL, as if they are out shopping. They just stick some cash in an envelope and tell you to buy your own gift because "how am I supposed to know what you like/want? I don't want to get it wrong"
Growing up my dad took me shopping for my mom way in advance and always wrapped up by buying her something really nice from him. So glad I got a good example.
Standout present this year, I’m a Whovian and he gave me two pieces of timber from a real BBC prop Tardis with certificates of authenticity. Other presents were from when he took the children shopping. This was clearly thought out and ordered online before time. I’m very happy.
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Then his ass is out the door. Mine are under the tree and there is a certain small box that is driving me crazy. I think for women the BEST ADVICE IS UNDERLINE HOW WELL YOUR EXES TREATED YOU. Even if it’s not true. make him work to impress you. Even if your ex just provided materially. that is all. You dont even have to rub it in their face. They will pick up on it if you drop a few clues and hints here or there. Men ARE VERY COMPETITIVE. thank you for coming to my Ted talk
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I even buy better xmas gifts for my cat then my ex got me last year.
This reminds me of a sad little incident I had last year. There's this particular shop based in Paris that I really like and the guy I was seeing (long distance) knew I was really into their clothes and jewellery. About a week before Christmas I got a notification that I had a package from them. Who else could have sent it to me? It had to be him. I was so elated. When I picked up the package and eagerly opened it I discovered it was a duplicate of an order I'd made for myself months ago - they'd sent to me by accident. What did I get from him? Nothing. Not even a call. A Merry Christmas text. This year I am pleased I have no such disappointments coming my way.
My dumb ass made tenative Christmas plans with a guy I was seeing. I just moved and don't have any family nearby/friends all seemed busy. He broke it off by text late Tues after not answering his phone so now I'm making new plans in the city by myself 🥴 They really do wait until the last minute 😂
(Honestly I'm not really upset, I'm more laughing actually)
My ex made buying bad christmas present a form of art. Last years when we were together I begged him NOT to buy anything for me. Our first Christmas together it was an air purifier. Seriously. I then did this mistake old as time: I tried to communicate. I told him I would love more romantic gifts than practical ones (well... that machine was not even that...).
Next year he made this classic LVM-move and whined about how he can't know what to get for me and just told me to pick my own gift and then with angry face he paid it. I haven't been able to wear those beautiful earings almost ever because they are loaded with memory about how it was a gift he didn't want to give me and was not interested to even try to select it by himself. Well... following years I learned he was completely incompetent with that too:
One year I wished a Chanel parfume. I send him pictures about options. He got completely different parfume (cheaper one, of course). I started to be already so negative about receiving gifts from him, I just told him I'm not going to open the package, but return it and buy the one I really wanted.
Last christmas before I left him I wished a bathrobe. I described how I dream about white, super soft and comfortable, warm robe. He got me a ugly, beige bathrobe made of thin towel fabric. Again the cheaper, low quality option, how else. Again, I told him that was not what I wanted, I'm not going to use it. I returned it and paid the difference to get a bathrobe I wished for.
He went of course full martyr mode every year. "Nothing is ever good enough for you!" (No, crap and junk is definitely NOT good enough for me.) and "How could I know what to get for you?!" (How about actually LISTENING me when I try to tell it?!) Later I realised he probably did all that on purpose, buying me something he knew very well I would not be happy with and then whine about how I'm impossible to please so I would not expect him to get me anything or to put any effort.
LOL, as if they are out shopping. They just stick some cash in an envelope and tell you to buy your own gift because "how am I supposed to know what you like/want? I don't want to get it wrong"
Growing up my dad took me shopping for my mom way in advance and always wrapped up by buying her something really nice from him. So glad I got a good example.
My dad right now, lol. I always tell my mom it’s not too late divorce him, but she says the payouts if he dies first are worth it, lol.
Lol, my husband has many hvm qualities, but he did only just take the kids shopping for my present/s today.