So I've been dating on apps for the past 6 months-ish and it's been going fine enough (largely thanks to FDS), but I had to end things recently with a guy. He was super nice and had great dating etiquette but I noticed every now and then he'd insanely misspell shit, like I'm talking "potatoe" or "spacial" etc. It was unusual since he otherwise had great vocabulary range verbally, perfectly fine grammar, had a uni degree etc. but in any case after one recent misspelling that my friends in a group chat found just far too funny I decided there was probably something up and decided to call things off. I figured there were a lot of women out there too who genuinely don't get ick at poor spelling, so it'd do him a favour too.
I found the whole thing really funny because it was basically an episode of it's always sunny in philadelphia:
https://itsalwayssunny.fandom.com/wiki/Sweet_Dee%27s_Dating_a_Retarded_Person
I told my brother about it and he got into this huge argument with me about whether spelling mattered at all and whether it was actually indicative of literacy skills and about why writing shouldn't matter because we have audiobooks and voice chat now. Like, for context, my brother has an MSc and I have a PhD in a writing-heavy humanities field and this mf is trying to convince me to date someone who can't spell "potato". Patriarchy is truly the best comedy.
You're right.
Spelling doesn't matter because we have voice chat? Wrong. The fact is that people who can't write well also can't speak well. FOR EXAMPLE Someone who always types "woman" when they need the plural "women" also get those words wrong when speaking, and I'm sorry but that's just dumb.