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Ladies - I had a STRANGE experience recently.
I was selling some used goods online...
First of all I want to share I had some safety things working in my favour, like:
-> I was selling out of a manned, secure and surveilled storage facility (had excess things in storage). -> I also used a separate account when selling on socials, NO photos of me, and did NOT hand out my phone number at all, not to the platforms, not the potential buyers.
Long story short, after preferencing female buyers (for all the reasons we here know), and dealing with too few interest, or time wasting, disrespectful behaviour, I decided to open myself to some male interest (on the items i was selling, lol). Now of course I did vet with what I could (I obviously wouldn't go with someone who was clearly overtly risky or potentially scammy)..
Anyway, I'm surprised to hsare htis, but once I started opening myself up to this option... the sales were easy, seamless, QUICK, respectful, and one of them even bought me a drink (it's very hot weather here) which he handed me as he left the premises (ie not a drink to hit on me etc, just a kindness). Maybe I was attracting fussy women because I'm also extremely fussy? idk...Just last night i was communicating with a frustrating woman, meanwhile a guy offers me more for the item, communicates clearly about when he's picking up etc etc and then by today it's a done deal with little to no drama. or maybe its because women have less resources (generally speaking) so they are mroe neurotic about how they spend them? Just thought I would share my experience. Not quite sure what to make of it. I realllly don't think I would have entertained the male buyers if the items were at my home. I'm verrry wary having strangers come to my home as it is. But it worked to my favour to have them at the storage facility, and I insisted buyers only come during business hours (for my saftey).
I'm a bit stumped on this one. Pleasantly so. But stumped, nonethless...
I buy a lot on Marketplace, I’ve just started selling but I used to sell a lot on Craigslist, which was big in the major city in which I used to live.
Women are pickier shoppers than men.
We have fewer resources, just as you said, and we have less time due to childcare, taking public transit, so we want higher quality and don’t have time to send back lots of “thank you for the additional information but I’m no longer interested,” or “I found something more suitable.,” etc.
It’s also hard as a woman to have to shop during business hours especially if we’re stay at home moms with kids who aren’t school age.
I also don’t have time to sit at my phone and wait for responses to pop up like men do.
Women are also more likely to be scammed so we have to keep our cards close to our chest when we’re buying.
I do prefer to buy from women, though. I find women are more likely to be honest, and studies back that up, and accommodating.
Plus, I don’t like buying from men out of fear. Once I showed up to buy a really nice coffee table for a ridiculously low price only to discover that the women I was buying from was an awkward man.
He opened his extremely empty and pristine garage, the coffee table was sitting under a blanket close to the door into their house and I said “hell, no, I am not going in there, he’s going to drag me into the house.”
So I had him bring the coffee table out onto the driveway and I insisted on putting it in my car myself.
I know that was even risky.
I’ve just started selling on Marketplace, though and I’ve found it’s much like Craigslist. You have to deal with a lot of non-committal, non-serious interest but most of shopping is just like that in general. I find most of the shoppers are women in general too especially for the kids’ stuff I’m selling.
Just out of interest, how do you price your items?
Neurotic? Fussy? Drama??? Girl... they were probably just returning your energy. The way you talk about other women is nasty ngl.
I sell stuff online also with no profile pic and no contact info and women are the easiest people to deal with ever. They bring their husband/mom/sister or whoever and meet me at the location, inspect the stuff, give me the money and it's easy peasy. Most of my stuff is sold to women easy peasy.
Women are pickier with most things, ime.
If you advertise a living space which specifies female only (i.e. finding a new subleaser to take your place in an apartment you shared with other women), your inbox will still be bombarded with iS tHiS sTiLL AvAiLaBlE messages from crusty men. Ask me how I know.