Vet everyone, not just the men in your life

Ladies, I'm sure each of us can think of at least one person we have known who was toxic, negative, or otherwise detracted from our life in some way. It might have been a friend, a relative, a boss, a classmate, or maybe even someone who worked at a business we frequented regularly. With billions of people on Earth, it is inevitable that many of them will rub us the wrong way or cramp our ability to be driven, positive, happy, and free. But fortunately, we can choose whether they are allowed to affect us. We can cut them out as ruthlessly as we might ghost, block, and delete some scrote we met on a dating app. We can grow as women simply by refusing to associate with garbage people who do not share our morals and values.

Leveling up isn't just about working on ourselves, although that's the hardest task we face. To become the woman we were meant to be, we must constantly self-assess, refine our goals, have the courage to face what isn't working for us, and fix it. We must always be in total control of ourselves, and we must have the self-discipline to cut out the negative behaviors and influences that are keeping us from glowing up. These negative influences often include other people.

Whether we've known someone our entire life or just a few months, it is a fact that others can have a massive and unpredictable impact on our ability to grow and thrive. The seemingly likable frenemy from work can sabotage our career, trash our reputation, or steal the credit for our work. The lifelong male friend/orbiter we've known since kindergarten can easily call us a slut behind our back because we won't have sex with him, or assault us when we're alone with him and vulnerable. The close relative or boss or business partner we trust may not be trustworthy at all. And so on.

It is your job, as your own advocate, to vet the people in your life--and to be willing to cut them out just as you would ditch a guy who is holding you back. Trust, but verify. Surround yourself with high value people, especially high value women, and avoid those who are not interested in self-improvement. Don't gossip; it makes you look small and always finds its way back to you. If you wouldn't say it to someone's face, don't say it behind their back--which, if you're like me, is just one more reason to develop the self-confidence and diplomatic tact necessary to say uncomfortable truths to someone's face, and to do so with a voice that doesn't quaver or shake.

If someone betrays you in any way, cut them off if possible. If it is not possible to cut them off, keep them at a polite distance but do not give them a second chance to betray you again. If someone reveals that they are of low character or lacking in morals, distance yourself if you can't just let them go. But do not trust them and do not let other people think you are still close. You will be judged by the company you keep, just as you would judge a woman who knowingly surrounded herself with gossips, cheats, addicts, and thieves.

Make yourself your first priority, and that must include enhancing and improving your social life. It goes without saying that we always vet the men in our lives, but we must also vet everyone else. Your reputation precedes you, and contrary to the bad advice given by libfems to women today, it is important to have a good one. Being of good character is a priceless asset; being known as a good person will open doors for you that will slam closed at the first hint of impropriety or low integrity. High value people do not intentionally associate with low value people, so vet the people around you as carefully as you would vet a potential mate. Protect yourself, always.