There Is Only One Thing I Can Always Trust Men With...

Learning from all the highly intelligent and accomplished women here has been nothing short of a blessing. I know I say that a lot, but it's true. I have so much to thank for and the grace for all the women here who have taught me so much about men and how I may have acted the fool for so many years now. I think it's safe to say that I can give yet another nugget of my own wisdom once again with this.

I don't trust men for the most part. We all know why. Men have a horrid track record of being the sex that is historically unfaithful, disloyal, selfish, hypergamous (ie youth diggers), abusive, murderous, and most of all, dishonest about nearly everything. He'll lie to you about his age. He'll lie to you about his height. He'll lie about his job, his marital status, how many kids he has, or even what his favorite color is. Men will lie just about anything there is to lie about, all in the hopes of keeping the women in his life confused and in the dark of who he truly is or his true motivations are.

But there's one thing I can always trust men with. There's one thing I can bet with my own life or all of my life savings on, knowing I can win them both back easily. Men know exactly who they want to end up with.

There's been many discussions about this. Women outside of this website have been splitting hairs over this for years. Decades. Here at FDS, we talk about the whole golden pussy theory, with several of us scoffing at the very idea of it. We talk about how men know which woman he wants to be with versus not based on actions alone. Some of us believe that men will treat all women like shit, even to his "dream girl" should she ever step foot inside his world. Some of us might be offended at the idea that a man could be an absolute asshole to every single woman until "Miss Right" shows up, and suddenly he's ready for and believes in marriage, when he wasn't at all yesterday.

Let me put some of these worries and frustrations to rest once and for all. It doesn't matter what kind of guy he is. It doesn't matter if he was a dick to his old girlfriends before meeting the one. It doesn't matter if he's an HVM the whole way through before finally meeting the one. It doesn't matter if he wasn't good to you, but now he's an angel with the new girl in his life. It doesn't matter if he did treated you well, but suddenly married to the next one. The taxi light theory. The box theory. The whatever else theory.

None of it matters at all.

I can be downright hateful to men right now, because of how much societal power they still have over us and how much they've ruined so many women's lives. I can make jokes about their receding hairlines and their gorging beer bellies. But there's now a very small, tiny part inside of me where my heart towards them softens and understands. I trust that men, as a whole, know who they were meant to be with in the end. I trust that men have the common sense to know the kind of woman that they dream of being his wife. I no longer wish to fight with men or challenge their preferences about who they really want to love and spend the rest of their lives with.

This is more than He Is Just Not That Into You. It is actually, He Just Knows You Aren't It.

There is nothing I can do to change a man's mind about who this Miss Right is. If I'm not her, I will gracefully exit his life and that'll be the end of it. He can be the worst NVM on Earth or the most caring HVM ever; I trust him with my entire being that he knows who he is desperately waiting for his entire life. It's more than just the golden pussy or that he's too stupid to realize what a great catch I am; none of that matters.

What matters is observing men with my eyes instead of with hopeful ears of whatever lies he decides to tell me that day, and moving accordingly. You will know when a man sees you as his one. You will know when he truly loves you with everything he has. You will know that this is the man who will drop everything to make your life better, if you could let him in. You will know this. Trust me!

I have to write all of this out because I keep seeing women all around me trying to theorize about what is it or who is it that a man truly wants. And the hard truth is that he already knows the answer. How? Men have been given permission from the world around him to always choose himself first; to choose what he wants out of life and to go get it, and to who he actually desires and go find or wait for her without shame. I think there's still a lot of people in general who might have some fun with shaming men about who it is he wants, but I think I want no part of it anymore.

Some dude could tell me right now, "My Miss Right is a tiny little petite redhead with huge boobs and just graduated from college." and I'll be like, "You know something? I believe you. Good luck finding her." and actually mean it. If that's his one, that's his one. No sense fighting with him over it.

I only say that last part because I realize what a waste of time it has been in my life to try to talk with men or convince them that I am who they want or who they are waiting for. They had the answer since childhood, while the average woman (such as myself) realizes what kind of man she actually wants to be with later on in life. Sometimes, much later on in life. So, I trust men for just one reason only, and it's that he knows who his one is. The man I will end up with, already knows that it's me that he's waiting for, and when we meet, it'll be as natural between us as breathing. And yours will know, too. 💟