Term for this phenomenon?

Yes, thank you. Walking away without trying to manipulate reality, educate, ask, beg, compromise or negotiate is really liberating. I hate to say it, but I should have walked after 2 weeks.

I'm obsessed with reality dating shows! Even though they're partly or mostly (depending on who you ask) manufactured, they are very educational and be studied closely like a copy of the DSM-V. ✨🤣⚡️

I walking away was so much more tidy haha than sending those wall texts I used to send explaining myself or begging for one second of understanding. There's so much I don't miss!!

That would have made dating him a total of two weeks as opposed to two months. ⚡️🎉

It was the first time he complained to me, just a little, about work and when I responded by telling him that I, too, was having a crazy pre-"everyone is about to go on summer vacation" work week, he said, "Yeah, but my job is not like your job, I don't just get to design all day. I'm a graphic designer for a large live events audio visual production company. And I let that slide. I could just......🤢 he basically said, yeah, but you don't have a real job.

What a prick.

BTW: the reason FDS suggests cutting off a guy at the -first- red flag is so that you don’t waste two months on him, when it could have been just two weeks.

Omg same thing happened to me he was such a loser kept complaining about his work and meetings whereas my job is 100 more times difficult in Heath care and he said “ yeah but I don’t get to do the same thing everyday each day for me is different 🤡🤡🤡🤡🤡

Done! ⚡️🤣

This gave me chills!! It's so exhilarating to read this. It's a little horrifying because I have an overactive imagination and I can this woman changing from a black

and white statue into a full-color woman who moves and dances and rock climbs and plants flowers and smells them!!! or, maybe writes a book, and travels to Egypt. Then, in contrast the man changes from a full-color living and breathing human being to a black and white inanimate statue, frozen in time without her energy to use!!!

Wow!!

Thanks so much.

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You know, you busted me!! I did start reading the handbook but, I didn't finish it before posting. Let me go do that this evening before asking any more Qs so that I have the primer in my brains. Not to mention context and a common language within the forum.

But, since you asked, and I am more than happy to spill, he:

Minimized the importance of my work because it's creative in nature

Never smiled with his eyes

We had this joke that his dog was jealous of me because I slept on her side of the bed when I slept over, which wasn't much because he snored and I've got stuff to do in the morning on Saturdays and Sundays, but I think I initiated it and said something like, "Your dog is looking at me like I just f*cked HER boyfriend. She's like, 'What a slut!'" and, he proceeded to retell this joke over and over and over again. My bad, though, but really??

HE DIDN'T emit any energy from his spiritual body. Not good energy. Not bad energy. NO ENErgy.

He never ever once -- not once -- complimented me on my appearance.

He trauma dumped on me every time we talked. One time, it was so intense and out of the blue, because we were having a great time when he did it, I almost had an anxiety attack. I definitely disassociated.

He talked about fun things we could do in the future when we first started dating, but after we agreed we were only sleeping with one another, he never mentioned the future again, nor did he mention introducing me to his friends again as he had in the past.

He seemed to want to bond over the drama and trauma of growing up because we both had troublesome teens and twenties. Which I now know I should have never mentioned because they allll love to do this, at least the broken ones do. I guess I'm not completely healed because I participated in it in the getting to know you phase but, I didn't find it enjoyable as much as I found it amusing or possibly just nostalgic.

He baited me into telling him about my last relationship by saying, "I told you my story, but I don't know sh*t about yours..." So, I gave him the Cliff's notes, which again, I shouldn't have. And even that was too much because when he was insecure, he'd ask me more questions about it. Boring!!

Last, he started saying things like, "I should get you to do XYZ for me because you're good at stuff like that." "I should get you to edit this video because you're good at that." "I should get you to stretch my legs and back because you're good at yoga."

The last thing was he asked me on a date and just like the 2 times before, he didn't have a specific time or place and that's when I told him I wouldn't be seeing him anymore.

I think that's all!!

Thank you!

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