FDS advocates for the Maximum Benefit of women

However, I think some of us might be misinterpreting that principle. For instance, assuming that “maximum benefit” includes consumerist/material goods and services from ANY man who stumbles your way (getting free meals from him, being showered in gifts, making him your personal handyman, etc).

I know, maybe you’re at the stage in your healing journey where you're a bit daring/rebellious and want to exploit men (especially out of revenge for past treatment by LVM)… I’ve been there, I know how satisfying that feels. But you are STILL relying on men for validation/attention and allowing them (especially undeserving LVM) to have access to you! 

Actual Queendom and Maximum Benefit

Instead, true Queendom is achieved by allowing only properly-vetted HVM the opportunity (and ✨blessing✨) to be in your presence and to look after you. YOUR TIME IS PRECIOUS, more precious than a free meal! A Queen would rather get her own fancy meal by herself or with friends than to use that time to endure free meals from a scrote (and literally losing brain cells listening to his stupid rambles... and potentially endangering herself).

What situations I'm referring to vs what I'm NOT:

I’m NOT referring to the situations where a proper and decent man invites you to dinner. Then yes by all means enjoy a free meal (you are his esteemed guest). This is different to a man you already KNOW is clearly LV!

If you continue entertaining an obvious scrote, you risk exposing yourself to triggers and dangers. You are not maximising your female benefit by spending any more time with that man, you are WASTING it, by lowering your standards and making yourself available just to gain free stuff. 

How to leave immediately and with grace

"Sorry, but I don't think this will work out". Or make up an emergency excuse and leave.

If it's really difficult (he's clingy or potentially dangerous), just remember some restaurants/venues are more than happy to call a taxi, safely escort you out with a security guard or sneak you out the back door.

Block him while you're leaving or once you've left. Which leads me to my next point:

Remember to be RUTHLESS and Block-and-Delete!

I find that the ruthless Block-and-Delete mentality is dwindling on this forum. Instead, it seems some of you are advocating for “block him unless he can buy you Gucci” or "he's a scrote, yes Queen- go toy with him for fun/revenge!" 🤡. If you want to be an "edgy" "baddie" sugar baby, then go ahead but FDS never explicitly supported this behaviour.

Just thought I’d make a quick reminder post, as a fellow FDS sister wanting to help out her other sisters, especially the ones who are new here. I understand if this causes a debate, I’m interested to hear what others think and what is their interpretation of FDS.