This is you PSA to NEVER NEVER NEVER compromise on any rules. You really like that guy and inflation making you think you should move in together? STOP! Never move in with a boyfriend. He just got laid off and needs you to cover dinner? NOPE! He can't afford to date and spend time with a woman. He needs to be out looking for a damn job. Feel free to add anymore scenarios that may make someone compromise on core standards. Just know that you will always end up feeling like shit whenever you compromise no matter how much you think it feels good in the moment and that he's "different".
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Never ever ever chase a man. Never do the initiating. If he’s too “shy” to approach you, he’s just not that into you. If he doesn’t call or text often, he doesn’t like you. Full stop.
Here’s one I see a lot. Never let a man borrow your car!!!! Men are more likely to engage in risky behaviours on the road. Speeding, running red lights, distracted driving and even road rage. The last thing you need is to lose your autonomy to get to your job, see your family and live your life because a man wrecked your car. He better drive his own car or he’s taking the bus 🤷♀️
When I'm asked what kind of man I'm looking for I'm told I need to understand that men are not perfect. And that sacrifices needs to be made, funny because so fat it's only women who make sacrifices in every marriage or relationship not men.
And it's so frustrating that I don't even respond to these questions anymore.
Men will always be on life time probabtion, mask slips, disrespect, neglect towards the relationship then I'm not going to sit there and write paragraphs about how he has hurt me. I'm gone today, If he doesn't adjust or correct his attitude it's goodbye.
I'm done with being lenient because if you did something wrong they won't treat you with the same regard,
It happened because he wanted to or allowed it because he didn't had you in mind. If he had you in mind or didn't want to do it then it wouldn't have happened, with other words learn to judge men like adults, you can give a dog a pass for peeing on your carpet, you can forgive your cat for choosing your desk as a good place to nap on because they don't know any better.
Men do.
Coming from Reddit and seeing how much advice is being sought by people who live with who they are dating is hilarious. Like, why? Why do you feel like this is going to strengthen your relationship?
The first signs of disrespect are while two people are dating. The trope that "we need to live together FIRST" is pushed on women by guys. Yes, there are women who also want that, although I have seen more of the first instance from what I read. Going back to the first point, if there is already disrespect present, it is NOT going to disappear once the two of you are under the same roof.
I have been asked by a flabbergasted guy point blank, "What did you feel was wrong about living together?" My answer was that I refuse to combine finances with anyone who I am dating and that I cherish having my own space. His response was, "That's cool, I guess! I lived with someone for four years and it ended up being a nightmare when we broke up!"
That is coming from a guy. Point stands.
The title makes it sound like women here are required by fds to follow the rules. Can this be "your standards are written in blood"?
Ive been thinking about writing a post in response to outsiders calling fds a cult. The point I want to make is that we're not a cult, and we have control over whether or not we act like a cult.