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REPOSTING THIS STRATEGY POSTS FROM THE SUBREDDIT USER SAYNAD
I think we need to get back to FDS roots instead of just complaining about LVM. We don't care about LVM. We don't deal with them. They are a non factor. We work on becoming HVW, putting our happiness first, and because this is a DATING strategy we actually encourage and support dating men and wanting committed, fulfilling relationships. I'm seeing a a lot of blackpill & femcel type of posts and attitudes going around here which isn't FDS. HVM are rare but they do exist and there's nothing wrong with wanting a man like that whether to be a FWB, boyfriend, husband, and/or father of your children.
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Here's the thing - MAJORITY of men are very, ***very*** bad liars. Why? Because women make it very easy for them.
Ever wonder why when men want to con another men - they will present themselves as having authority and knowledge on stuff? Because that's how they see their target.
And so, ever wonder why most men, when they want to manipulate women - they act like bumbling idiots who know nothing? Strategic incompetence anyone? Why?
You guess it - because that's how they see their target.
Men know that if they can make women believe the "women are naturally superior" in certain area - they can get away with laughably half-assed lies. The man who can work with computers and know how to drive "mysteriously" for the life of them can't figure out how to cook pasta. Get f\*\*king real.
But you know some women - and some of you even pre-FDS - vehemently believe that men are just dummy dumb-dumb and can't be relied on when it comes to certain things - and for some reason, they are things that are traditionally women-tasks like household chores and childcare.
So you see, why would men want to do all the hard work of being good at lies and manipulation ala James Bond - when they can just spew some ridiculous bullshit instead and women will just eat it right up?
And if the women start questioning their bullshit? They have an army of bros and pickmeishas young and old ready at anytime to gaslight you and accuse you of being the "crazy" one.
Most women around the globe grew up in this environment. Most women grew up surrounded by LVMs and this is our "normal", hence why we can't see the blatant lies and glaring red flags. We didn't see enough truthful men to have a frame of reference. We are desensitized and often unintentionally ignore red flags because it is "normal" to us.
So ladies, you SHOULD NOT be afraid of stumbling upon the most perfect suave psycho that can con you for years and years and only show their true face after a decade or two. Because the reality is this: most men already crack and show after three months - hell some show their colors after a week.
In most (if not all) cases - it is the women who refuse to see the blatant lies and glaring red flags in front of them and keep questioning, pondering, asking, hoping that someone can reinforce the house of cards they are sitting on.
Ignorance is a bliss they say - and naturally as women, we want our comfort zone to stay comfortable. We want our home to stay the way they are, we want our family to stay the way they are - we want our partner to stay the way they are. And we are so very afraid of anything that can ruin that comfort, we just rather put our head in the sand and deny the inevitable truth.
And here's the TRUTH ladies:
Most men aren't great liars - they are very bad, not good, horrible, lazy liars. It is us women who are so great at gaslighting ourselves, we can't even see (or refuse to see, really) even if the red flags materialize and sucker punch us in the face. Repeatedly.
Because we have been systematically brainwashed since birth to believe the lies, give men the the benefit of the doubt, make up stories about "why" he act like this and "suddenly" become like that. And society is 100% fully on board with this lies. People even make up excuses for violent murderers, r\*\*\*ist, and cheaters ffs.
So stop being afraid of the so-called "great manipulative men" - you will probably never meet the true masters.
What you should be afraid of is YOUR OWN MIND \- if you still aren't completely off the brainwashing and tend to "fog" your brain in relationship - you need to work on that before dating again.
The only way to not fall for a manipulative liar is to master the art of "I don't believe the man, I OBSERVE him and make my own judgement".
Because when you are at that level - You SEE men for who they truly are, not what your ideal version of him is in your mind.
You start to SEE the soulless eyes, lack of warmth, smiles that are never genuine, his calculated "kindness", the silent anger just thrumming right under his skin, the resentment he tries to hide when you are being "difficult".
You can FEEL just how unsettling being around him is, how your gut are going crazy trying to warn you and sending you signs to GET OUT NOW!
You realize just how GLARING his lies are and how BLATANT the red flags are. How laughably PREDICTABLE his lies are - because they all just follow the same stupid script! They can't even bother to keep their lies straight - and mostly depend on gaslighting, coercion, and abusive tactics to keep you subdued.
So ladies, stop being afraid of con men - they aren't ***that*** great. Start being concerned about your tendency to gaslight yourself, and start working to get out of that.
Stay safe, ladies.
This is true. We all remember the red flags we ignored in the begining of our not so good relationships. I tell women all the time, you don't have worry if a man will remain perfect from the start (or worry you married a scammer in a clown suit) if you trust yourself to WALK AWAY. He throws something at you? Calls you a name? Ditches you? Yells at you when you are pregnant? Hangs up on you? Stops taking you out? Forgets your birthday? You find his huge porn collection? etc etc etc WALK AWAY. There will always be a flag before the storm, quit gaslighting yourself waiting by watching.
Good men are out there. I'm convinced the only way to find one is through sheer luck, but we increase our chances by vetting and having very high and rigorous standards. FDS at least gives us a fighting chance of being in a healthy relationship. Even if I never find a good man, I want to make sure I never settle for a bad one.
Most of the time, women want to believe the fantasy in their heads that they have of the guy and not see who they actually are. That's why men prefer younger women who are still operating in magical thinking. When I was young, I didn't really understand red flags in men, because I had been taught to treat other as I'd want to be treated. I was taught to serve men and to let them lead. It took awhile before I realized my husband was leading me into the abyss. But after my 20s were over, I got more wisdom and stopped fantasy thinking. Men are reality. Their actions and words combined are reality. If they don't match your fantasy of a great relationship, don't crap fit him into your life.
It's actually really important to know that men aren't stupid. They think WE are. And patriarchal dominance almosts attests to that, in that we are too stupid to acknowledge what they are. If it helps, most men aren't capable of keeping a facade going for more than a few months. With that said, there are child molesters who were married for twenty years before getting caught, and don't think you're all that smarter than their wives were.
Oh amazing, if we're reposting old quality posts from the subreddit, I'm all for it. I have a few of them saved. I'll gladly contribute too.
Yes, read the rest of her high quality and vital posts, a true FDS queen @SayNad