Have early dates in the day time

I like that strategy. Anything that goes against the grain (or in this case, groin).

It really is a scrote strategy. I listen to male dating coaches sometimes just so I can learn their strategies. One of them tells men to never schedule a lunch date because there’s no way that’ll lead to sex. He also tells them not to ask women on coffee dates for the same reason, because it’s just not creating the right atmosphere for sexual attraction. Go figure. 😂 Of course they fight with him on that because they don’t even allow their own gurus to disrespect their golden calf that is the coffee date.

I only do dates like this as my energy is best during the day

I always feel uncomfortable meeting men at night, unless there is a specific location in public such as a restaurant, sushi bar or beach party with my own transport to take me home, I have an aquintance who takes and picks ppl up much cheaper than a cab so that's what I will settle for, but never will I step in a man's car at night even if he picks me up. A gentleman understands that a woman is entitled to her safety and it should be respected.

Great advice, I had a seemingly HV man (we didn’t continue dating for other reasons) ask me what time I’d be happy to meet, and was very comfortable with it being during the day- he properly planned lunches/fun activities.

It put me completely at ease. Didn’t feel scrotey/sleazy, and early on in getting to know each other I liked that there was nothing ‘too much’ with evening plans.

This strategy might work for some, but many women work from morning until after 5PM on weekdays. 9AM to 6PM or 7PM is a standard office workday in the U.S., and if we're lucky, we might get 1 hour total for lunch. Some of us get only half an hour, and some states do not require employers to grant a lunch break at all (I live in one of these states). For many women, it's just not possible to go on dates before 7PM on weekdays.

This leaves the weekends, but they are reserved for people and activities that are more sacred in my life. I would not give any portion of my Saturdays or Sundays to a man I just met.

For me, at least, if I have to meet a man on a weekday, it would have to be after 6PM, most likely after 7PM, if I take transportation time into account. I guess that's the way it'll be until my work schedule changes.

I think lunch/day time dates are for later in the dating phase but can he lots of fun then, especially if you combine them with another activity before or after. In my opinion, they are a little too "casual" for first dates.

I also simply don't have time for that during the week with my full-time job and a 30 minute lunch break and on weekends my daytime is usually reserved for chores, errands, hobbies, pre-planned activities with friends or volunteering. I may plan something for a weekend during the day in a later dating phase but not in the beginning. I don't know if he's worth it yet then.

I'd also be kind of wary if a man has time for or prefers lunch/daytime dates during the week. Because...

a) Why is he not at work at these times? (of course he could be self-employed or work shifts that allow him weekdays off, but still...)

and - more importantly -

b) I'd be suspicious that he wants to meet me during the day on a weekday because his evenings and weekends are already reserved for someone else who would notice if he is missing (like a wife, kids, girlfriend or other date)

Nah, I just blocked and deleted a guy for asking me on a lunch date this week. Lunch dates are for friends/colleagues, or for people in established relationships in addition to their routine dinner dates. There's nothing romantic or "serious" about them. But to each their own, I guess

FWIW, I just asked a guy if he'd be interested in meeting up for lunch. We've chatted a bit; the initial attraction is there on both sides. He lives a little distance away, but not too far. I want to see how we get on, if our conversational styles mesh well, how the energy feels with him in person, when I can actually see him properly. Older lady here, totally own not particularly liking to drive at night. Lunch suits my purposes well.

However, this could also be the kiss-off to letting him be just another FB friend. We met on FB dating, but the whole thing seemed so constrained. If that drive and desire to talk and get to know each other is only minimal, I want to know sooner rather than later. I suspect we'll end up being "just FB friends" and slowly fall out of touch altogether. Still, I'm curious, and want to give it a shot.