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WARNING: These are HANDBOOK POSTS -- WRITTEN A LONG TIME AGO by some great women with great thoughts and deemed as handbook worthy by FDS mods for a reason. If you feel triggered or disagree with something -- THE SMART THING TO DO IS TO MOVE ON. Agree to disagree and go on your merry way. Stop trying to start bullsh*t in the comment section because I have no patience to deal with you.
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Think about it from his perspective.
To you, it makes no sense to lead a guy on for ten years.
To a LVM, it sounds like a great deal to have ten years of consistent attention and sex.
To you, asking you out for coffee might make you think “he wants to get to know me!”.
To him, he knows that’s the bare minimum socially acceptable date he has to go through before he believes he will get what he wants.
To you, you only compliment people when you mean it.
To him, he read that women love flattery. He uses the same lines on everyone.
To you, it doesn’t make sense to lie about intentions.
To a LVM, it’s perfectly clear. It’s how he plans to get what he wants.
To you, splitting the bill shows you’re independent.
To him, it shows that you have no expectation he will treat you like a queen.
Do not analyze people from your own perspective. Not everyone is like you.
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Basically don't project your own way of thinking on other people especially men you are dating.