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As promised, this is the 2nd in the series of ways to counter common RP tactics.
Dread
For those of you that might not be aware, dread is a series of manipulative steps made up by RP men for whenever they’re being denied sex or they just feel like their woman isn’t “acting right”. It ranges all the way from ignoring her, to actually flirting with other women and then eventually cheating on her or divorcing her.
https://theredarchive.xyz/archive/24224
This one talks about dreading your wife, but they apply the same tactics to gfs and even fwbs too.
In light of this, the best response to a man using the dread tactics on you, is simple. It involves a combination of imitating his actions and maintaining your stand.
If when you ask him something especially something that shows vulnerability, and he either brushes you off or laughs about it, then he’s most likely trying to “pass a shit test”.
According to red pill, if a woman says: “I’m mad at you!” then it’s a shit test. The incorrect or apparently beta response is to ask her what’s wrong or how you can make it better. Supposedly, the correct or Alpha response is to say something like “Good”, “I like you better mad”, or “That’s too bad. Frowning causes wrinkles.”
As a woman the best response here is to first recognize what he’s doing. And then say nothing and don’t make any further remarks and don’t probe any further. Some of them enjoy getting a rise out of you from of their nonchalance. It gives them a sort of sick power to realize how much they can rile you up.
Now, the next time he asks you something that shows his vulnerability, like “I wonder if I fixed that right” or “Does that feel good?” during sex. Instead of doing the usual male pandering shit you always do...STFU and say nothing. Do this a few times, esp right after he does the same to you, and he’ll get the hint.
If you notice that he’s starting to build a life apart from you and take up new hobbies, you need to do the same. In fact, you should have already been doing this. You need to have an active life outside of your relationship or your marriage. Because if shit hits the fan, your family, friends and your hobbies are what will help keep you grounded and sane.
If he treats you poorly or insults you, then you need to step away and condition the amount of time you spend with him based on how well he treats you. If he’s acting like a brat or an asshole, walk away and ignore for the next day or so.
If you’re out and you see him flirting with another woman, maybe the waitress, then subtly flirt with the valet or the pool boy. Or just that guy whose eye you caught when you walked into the place/event. Most men enjoy female attention and your recipient will most likely welcome the attention you give him, but the reverse is not true for men and the waitress/hostess is more likely to just think he’s a creep. And so it’ll often be easier for you to make him feel dread than for him to make you.
If he actually starts to make ultimatums regarding the marriage, by conditioning his marriage to you based on the number of times/wk that you have sex with him, then you need to recognize what a big baby he’s being and act accordingly. You’re not a puppet, you don’t respond favorably to ultimatums. If his love for you and marriage to you is based primarily on sex, to the point where he’s willing to throw it all away, then let him go. Civil discussions and compromise is how adults handle conflict, while temper tantrums and ultimatums is how crying bitches do it. If after you shut his hissy fit down, and he decides that he wants to be reasonable, then you guys can come to a suitable compromise about sexual frequency. Listen to his concerns and offer a sexual frequency solution that you know you’ll be comfortable with.
I do caution that if you find yourself having to do this often with the man you’re with, you might want to think about whether it’s worth it to even be with him. It’s okay if you have to do it a few times, then he learns his lesson and stops. But if you’re constantly having to show him that you will not accept being disrespected, then maybe it’s time to find another guy that already knows you’re worthy of respect.
(SayNad's comment: If any guy shows any of these RP attitude ONCE -- LEAVE. Stop fighting a stupid fight, ladies)
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We complain about what men have done to us, while men complain about what we haven't done for them
Before I knew this terminology(thank you🙏) I called this "punishing." It always creeped me out like you aren't my parent/guardian get out of my face lol
They punish us for not doing more, more, more. Being human. The slightest perceived transgressions in his crazy mind.
We punish them for acting like toddler assholes. For not growing tf up. Treating us as inhuman. Acting inhuman themselves, with annoying mind games they think everybody else is also playing.
Men: be an object non human with zero needs or sentience! Women: act like a human with empathy omg wtf lol. Women humanize men and men dehumanize women.
The last paragraph is spot on. If you find yourself treating him like he treats you in order to prove a point and "show him" more than once maybe twice just drop it. We don't wanna raise our partners. Raise them mentally and spiritually? Yeah sure. Raise them like a child? Fuck no lol. There are whole ass, wholesome people out there I'd rather be around.