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For those who want children:
Ladies, your womb is quite literally the most sacred space and holds so much power. You as a woman have the sole power to control life on this planet as we know it. I say all this to emphasize:
DO NOT LET LVM/NVM GET YOU PREGNANT: You will suffer.
1) Pregnancy is extremely traumatic to a woman’s body.
You carry this child, with no ones assistance but your own. You are the one that will grow and transform in a way that will almost appear alien to you for a continuous 9 months. It is YOU that carries all the risks and complications of becoming pregnant. The emotions, the hormones — everything. LVM will often make you feel afraid, lonely, anxious and unwanted during pregnancy. He will nag you for sex (during and postpartum), depend on you to continue housework and not tend to your basic needs as a pregnant woman.
2) Raising children is expensive.
LVM fathers will often leave the mother to not only the child rearing but expect her to work a full time job. He doesn’t have a provider mentality, and often expects you to split with him or even take care of most of the bills as he spends lavishly on his own hobbies. This is assuming the male stays after birth.
3) In our society, most males aren’t bound to fatherhood.
They are able to come and go, while the woman bares almost all the responsibility of raising children. LVM will find it easy to leave, and you basically have to sit there and take it. You are expected to care for that child now, regardless of his absence. Now you are stuck in a hussle and tussle with the courts over his crack change to take care of his kids.
Having children with LVM will quite literally ruin your life. Unfortunately, in our society, we have cultivated a mentality in young women that having children with any man is a prize. It’s not. More often, women are left with all the burden and responsibilities of children.
A LVM will destroy your life if you let him. Wear condoms like your life depends on it. In fact, I advocate for no sex for at least 3 months (or more) and also STI checks if possible. Males can infect you with deadly diseases that could bar you from having children later on.
Lastly, I really advocate for rings before children.
The man you choose to have children with should be kind, patient, caring, and most importantly, empathetic. You can only do this by vigorously vetting and ensuring the genes you allow to enter your bloodline will be totally cared for and loved.
Ask yourself, would I be happy with my son having the exact same qualities as this man? Who you choose to father your children is the most important decision you’ll ever make in your life. Do not take it lightly.
If all fails, at least marriage will protect you and your children financially.
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I was literally thinking about this quote the other day. Guard your womb with your life is a great phrase that stops us from settling for terrible men. It’s one thing when I think about myself, but it’s another to realise that I could make my children suffer. I think if I’d have had kids with my ex, they would’ve been special needs and mentally ill. I’m both of these things, but these problems were also in my ex’s family.