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WARNING: These are HANDBOOK POSTS -- WRITTEN A LONG TIME AGO by some great women with great thoughts and deemed as handbook worthy by FDS mods for a reason. If you feel triggered or disagree with something -- THE SMART THING TO DO IS TO MOVE ON. Agree to disagree and go on your merry way. Stop trying to start bullsh*t in the comment section because I have no patience to deal with you.
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Cutting Men Off: An Underrated Strategy
✒️ If you've initiated dates with a man (but he never initiates one with you), don't ask for advice on how to get him to initiate a date with you. Cut him off.
✒️ If you've been the one predominantly initiating texts with him and he rarely texts you first, cut him off.
✒️ If he's been leaving you on read and takes a day to get back to you, cut him off.
✒️ If he doesn't make you feel special, cut him off.
✒️ If he makes you feel frustrated because he can't plan a date well and offers a low value proposal, cut him off.
✒️ If it's been 6 weeks of seeing each other continuously and he still hasn't shown that he wants to be in a relationship with you, cut him off. If he says he doesn't want a relationship with you, cut him off. He doesn't want one with you.
In short, if he hasn't been treating you like someone he values and someone he considers girlfriend material, cut him off.
The established pattern will not change. If he comes running back promising he will change, don't believe him. He'll change for a bit before reverting back to how he once was.
It's easier to teach a new man how you'd like to be treated than to change a man who has learned that treating you like you're not special still gets him results. Start over with a new man instead of trying to change one.
Dating is a numbers game. Your time is better spent meeting a lot of new men, going on dates with them, cutting them off the moment they've shown they're not crazy for you THAN spending more time going out with someone who doesn't think you're special and who's just wasting his time with you because he's bored.
The strategies in FDS won't help you if you're using them on low value men who have shown to you that they don't care for you. Learn how to cut men off ruthlessly. He's shown you how he feels about you and he's never going to change.
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Hugely important to internalise this mantra and cut men off immediately at the very first sign of apathy, negativity or disrespect
One of the strongest posts yet as a baseline in establishing Queen energy, in my opinion.