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Yesterday I found out that I made the right call cutting off a male "friend" a few years ago. I was newly into FDS when this guy reappeared into my life, as he was on the brink of divorce. It quickly became apparent he was looking for more than friendship and didn't see me as a person. I cut him off.
A mutual friend (my gay friend) met him yesterday in a professional capacity and learned he just got re-married a week ago. Yet he tells me the guy is still in love with me and was checking out every waitress in the bar. As in, head swivelling and looking. Then chatting up the 20 year old waitress. My friend was mortified to be sitting with him. Oh, and he's drinking again. He was sober when I knew him.
This guy didn't care who he was married to, he just wants to be married. He can't be alone. He kept quizzing my friend about being single and how he can do it. My friend has been single for 5 years and he's really happy. He said it was clear the newly married guy couldn't imagine a life where he was alone. My friend said it was so obvious he didn't care about his one-week old marriage. But he's got 2 kids, so he's locked in the pack mule.
Thanks to FDS I was able to spot the red flags and ditch him. And after hearing this update, I'm glad I never reached out to patch things up. Ick.
O god, just another divorcé devotee. If you haven't already blocked him, then block him. This guy is cruising down self induced misery lane and he'll drag anyone down with him who can't get away
Sounds like my ex husband 🤣 scrote's gonna scrote! They think they're gods gift to women but can't get all the women (20 year old waitresses get older too) so have multiple marriages.... and they don't care how many hearts, especially their children, they break along the way. Sure you're not still in love with someone who probably had unprotected sex with any poor unsuspecting pick-me who looked twice at him in the bathroom after professing his love for you then going home to his current wife? 🤣 He sounds like such a catch! 🤣 Well done for seeing the writing on the wall and dodging that nuke sis 👏
He was setting you up to be his Stepmommy McBangmaid. Yikes! Bullet dodged. Recall that married stepmothers are the least happy cohort of all women. Well done, sis. 💕 It’s not too often in life that we get our smart life choices so very clearly validated like this. 🏆 Give yourself mega credit for spotting red flags and avoiding his trap.
The last guy I dated was like this. He was only separated (I know- I shouldn't have dated him, lesson learned), but it was clear he was in a hurry to lock down another woman. His reasons for divorcing his gorgeous, successful wife didn't add up. He said they had become like roommates. They were clearly still very fond of each other, and he said he was paying her way more spousal than required. He gave me major gay vibes, but I gave him the benefit of the doubt because I was so glad to have finally found a gOoD gUy. Ended up cutting him loose cuz he was unreliable and secretive. I really think he just wanted a beard so he could keep up his married Christian man facade. I'll bet his ex-wife found out his secret, so he paid her hush money.