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Amazing read, very affirming, very validating. I was shocked to see that 62% of users on dating apps are men. They're having to compete, and many just don't have the skills to impress, which is the takeaway from OLD in general.
What frustrates and angers me is how women have been screaming for millenia about how men need to change, level up, be better in every way, and they barely if ever hear us. When are men going to tell each other to step up, level up, improve? I'm just surprised they don't get it already, although I suppose it's safe to say, never underestimate human laziness. We all want what we want when we want it, with the least effort possible, sad to say. That said, though, everyone does better when everyone does better. Level up already! Be your best self. Take care of your body, mind, and soul. We do; so should men!
I think we're at an inflection point in society where things have changed dramatically with the rise of the internet. Certainly porn has changed things, not for the better. (I'm so happy I was completely out of the loop on that, happily married the entire time porn invaded the dating scene.) Women have advanced and will keep on advancing. Men seem to have regressed. I do love how widely information is disseminated now; things like AITA and other advice columns let people know what's good, what's unacceptable, and that our feelings are valid. It is so good to be backed up, like what I posted about the married scrote who psychologically terrorized his wife.
I don't understand what's so hard about being a provider; being a physical provider if you intend to marry and have children I get, but I for one am way beyond that esp being widowed and childfree; it is very valid, very necessary for younger women. What's so difficult about being an emotional provider, a good, solid, stable, consistent, comforting partner? That's a huge part of providership and it seems to me quite often overlooked and dismissed. It is, in fact, the foundation, the bedrock, of a solid, satisfying relationship. Thoughts, queens?
Seems like instead of realizing they need to work on themselves and how they approach women, these guys double down with their shit behavior online out of selfishness and entitlement. It doesn't surprise me that the % of men to women on line is increasing. Women have had enough of their shit and we know when to walk away when the ROI is so bad.
How many of those men on the apps are really single though? Isn't there a good chunk of them already married and with gf looking to cheat?
The rise of lonely single man. I do blame dating apps, like he says. Men think that they can keep going out with 5 different women every week offering coffee dates instead of focusing on a fulfilling relationship. They think they can have a roaster while waiting for the dream girl, that does not even exist. The idea of dating apps to men as window shopping women make them think they can play around and never settle. Or settle at 50, 55. I hate the concept of dating apps itself. Judging someone based on 5 photos, as if people were simple like that. No connection, ghosting culture, married men, games, abuses, etc. we are screwed up in this scenario.
We ignore them, don’t give them attention. Only give attention to the ones we want and eventually, it can take months to years, they will seek relationship advice from actual men with long term relationships instead of predatory and PUA redpilled dating coaches.
Or.. they basically die single or lonely.
Tbh, since women can be single and work, earn her own money to buy/rent a place since last decades, it is a new phenomenon because women have finally the freedom to choose without oppression or lies to procreate with a man she believes to be worthy carrying his genes, we women have this intelligent calculator within our body that knows by looking at men that the children will be attractive or not. Men don’t have that therefore allot of average looking men are living because the freedom to choose was oppressed.