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These comments on a youtube video caught my eye. The husband was kind and supportive of his wife going through IVF. Please. This is normal behaviour. This is not "award winning" stuff.
Please ladies, when you are out in the world especially if men are around or within earshot--watch your words.
Think of how quickly trends and ideas spread.
Every time a woman gushes over some man doing the bare minimum of what society would expect of a woman...she's pandering to the patriarchy.
NEVER say "wow, what an amazing man, you're SOOOO lucky to have him, gee there are NO GOOD MEN around these days, guess I'll just be a sad cat lady"
WHY? It gives any man who is half-decent an inflated ego, he will suddenly think he's a rare and special beast who has his pick of all the desperate women. We don't need that. We want to encourage ALL men to better themselves. Strive for the best! Make the world a better place for women (and therefore all people).
INSTEAD here are some alternative phrases:
"My husband took me on a romantic dinner, chopped lumber and built a sunken garden on the weekend"
REPLY: "That's nice. But then you're an amazing woman, he's lucky to have you, you deserve to be treated well"
"My husband is SO great, he looks after the kids, and helps with the cooking and cleaning"
REPLY: "I think it's only reasonable that both partners share in the raising of children and household duties. I'd never even consider dating someone who didn't do their share."
"I've been on so many dates and I just can't seem to find anyone, there are no good men anymore"
REPLY: "A lot of men on dating apps are bottom-barrel but trust me, you've got plenty of options. I know some interesting people you might like to meet--we'll talk later" (When out of male ear-shot, introduce her to the FDS podcast).
Stuff like this makes me wish women would dump men more often when they get sick.
"Honey, I feel really.... Unsupported right now. I think we should see other people."
"But... I just have a cold?"
"🤷"
YOUTUBE IS FILLED WITH FUCKING PICK-ME'S. I try to avoid Youtube comments at all costs because they're either filled with women-hating incels or bare minimum man-loving pick-me's.
I watch this one Youtuber often and her fiance (who doesn't even work AFAIK and lives off of his Youtuber gf) sort of gives me the ick because be constantly laughs at her (on camera and in front other people) for being too loud, too talkative, etc. and views her as some sort of helpless bunny.
It's just to me and I don't enjoy the "letting my male partner make jokes about my behavior" dynamic, so it's always weird when I see girls and women gush over the fiance when he does the bare minimum for her. Something about that man just seems off to me and all the women in the comments can never get enough of him.
I see these types of comments on youtube a lot about men and it really pisses me off tbh
My best friend actually set me straight once when I was praising the bare minimum (but it was for a woman I was dating not a man). I was gushing about how she offered to make tea for me when I was sick and my best friend said "that's just normal significant other behaviour."