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Every single time I download them, and by them I mean hinge because it was the only one marketed for relationships, I end up re-downloading later convincing myself I must be missing out on Prince charming. And yes, I'll occasionally meet a nice guy, but honestly it's mostly low value scrotes and I always feel like I'm going to get murdered or sex trafficked. Also, hinge recently introduced an option for short-term dating. The whole point of that app was it was meant for relationships. I don't want to be on a menu for some p*** sick scrote.
I met a guy recently who took me on a lunch date and although he paid and was perfectly nice, he got twitchy in the second hour. He wasn't twitchy at all in the first hour, so maybe he got suddenly nervous or had tourette's or something. I asked him if he was cold and he said no, he just has a lot of energy. This wasn't a tapping foot they were full on twitches.
I honestly assumed he must be p*** sick. Sure, maybe he did get nervous but why? The date was going well. He also paid with a credit card, and although I don't want to be a hypocrite because I've had my own stupid journey with credit cards, I guess I've been listening to a lot of Dave Ramsey lately and I was turned off by the credit card use. He asked me out on another date, asking me if I wanted to go for a walk in the park or a hike. Ridiculous, I'm not going to meet a strange twitchy man in the woods alone.
If a man wants to date me he can ask me out. I don't f****** know, and I'm starting to not care either. Sure, I'd like to meet them right man eventually but I feel like it's much more likely to happen in person at an organic event like a sports event or a fair or something, or through a mutual friend. I'm not even that pressed if I don't meet a guy, they always are 10 times more f****** stupid and trashy than you dream them up to be. P*** sick, rude, pushy, dangerous. I don't hate men, and I know there's good guys out there but I don't think they're on the apps.
I didn't know Hinge was marketed for relationships! I got so many Dave Portnoy wannabes on there, okay, 3, but that's a lot! Always with the implied threat of choking and other rough sex. And so many "ENMs", like I can't count those.
Dump the apps and work on flirting and meeting men in real life. Trust me. I did this and the experience has been much, much better. The only dudes on dating apps are either really weird, predators, or dudes looking to hook up. Sure, some dudes want a relationship, but they’re on and off faster than lightning and most great men don’t even download em. Find a man irl, sis.
Matchmaking services don't work either, I've literally seen every match on those dating sites and vice versa. I'd never waste my money on speed dating, matchmaking or dating apps again. Went through a phase where I said to myself, right I won't pay again but I'll stay on the safer dating sites like elite singles, match, hinge, plenty of fish. But nothing is safe anymore.
I agree with Neenabop The fee would have to be high, coz look at the price they pay for prostitution. I agree they should pay for women's free counseling, especially when it was them that abused her and made her suicidal. There should also be more verification, as in linked to national insurance number or ppsn or equivalent in USA and elsewhere.
Yeah there’s something fundamentally wrong with dating apps. Aside from having to filter out all the scrotes, I think it puts you in the wrong position to start a relationship with a hvm, assuming it’s even possible to meet one on an app. Masculine, hvm don’t want a woman who chases after men and wastes her time on scrotes. And I think that by putting your profile up and ‘swiping’, you’re automatically in the position of pursuing men and devaluing your time and attention. It’s not a good look.
I think your instincts about dating apps are correct. Im finally in a great relationship at the age of 44 with a man Id known for two decades before we figured out we’re meant to be together, and have been friends with that whole time. It turns that having things in common is super important to a functional relationship, and being friends first seems to be the best bet, at least in my experience. When I was on dating apps, it made me damn near suicidal. I think just building your life and attracting like minded partners on the way is probably the best way to go. Get you a good vibrator and focus on you. I think your hunch about organic events is dead on… even if it takes a while. It doesn’t mean you shouldn’t still be cautious and careful though… some men are masters at pretending to be what they’re not.
Good guys are not on these apps. I used to think that because I’m a bit older I would try to go on dating apps again. Then I realized I tried it when I was 19 and it was still sh*t. I’ve only found more decent ones when they reach out to me IRL or first online( not on dating apps). But even those aren’t too great. Online dating has became a joke these days. I’ve had so many horrible experiences I could write a book about it with OLD. Could it be a guy who lied about being a criminal maybe. Yeah I’m good with using these again.
I'm on Hinge too but considering deleting it as it's now become a cesspool. Honestly kinda pissed that Hinge used to market itself as a relationship app and now they're promoting hook-ups by including "short-term relationship" as a filter option. Ridiculous, wtf is a short-term relationship?! Just say you want hook-ups and go...
Oh, and the last date that I went on with a guy from Hinge was a bust! He kept mentioning going over to his place to "meet his cat" and I found out he conveniently picked a restaurant within walking distance to his house. 🚩🚩🚩🚩
I declined and noped the hell out of there and surprise, surprise he never texted me back after I texted him to confirm I got home safe. (At his request).
Absolutely, LVM are all over it. Dating apps were built for them in a way. It’s free, they browse pickme thirst trap photos, suggest coffee dates as most can’t afford real dates, and live with their mothers. Harsh reality of cheap sites. Literally never met anyone worth my time on them.
Prince Charming isn't on any online dating apps. You meet him using an extended social circle. Perhaps at a mutual friends party.
I love hiking but I would never go hiking with a man alone. The times I did bring my exes hiking , it was always with family or with my father.
I wish I could go back in time and stop hiking from ever becoming a popular trait and date for OLD.
feeling the same way right now! i've been on the same app and while it's nice and refreshing as an app... the quality seems to be the same as the rest, which is frustratingly mediocre. i'll be deleting apps soon because i'm just done.
that guy was definitely not the one. twitches because of running? is he addicted to it?