When kinksters admit “raceplay” is inherently racist, but don’t see how misogynistic their kinks are

Racism is generally taken more seriously than misogyny, probably because it affects men too (and I'm saying this as a person of color).

Wow, thank you for posting this here. I always noticed this and it made me pretty annoyed - raceplay is somehow super untouchable for a lot of kinksters and it'll get you run out of social circles, but NO ONE looks at "rapeplay" or "ageplay" the same way. It was mindboggling to me when I still dabbled in kink communities online.

I know racism and misogyny are different topics, but the way people would not even remotely try to take a second look at their misogyny related "fetishes" made me want to yell. The only reasons I can think of why this is, is that right now racism is a major social faux pas, but being into 'edgy' types of sex is trendy right now. It is seen as trendy/openminded to be into "rapeplay or ageplay."

I was a little too young so maybe someone else has more info but it seemed to me back in the 90's and early 00's, "rape play"/etc wasn't quite so normalized yet so it still had that taboo factor, vs now after the libfem 'sex posi' movement of the 2010's.