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“Back with my ex, we’ll see how long we go this time 😜” was how he approached me on text, LOL.
I said well I must’ve misunderstood his intentions with me before since I had previously been told by him that he wanted to keep seeing me. (At the time, I was also dating and vetting another man). I didn’t trip out though when he stopped reaching out for dates since “if he wanted to, he would.”
“You didn’t misunderstand anything, I like you and want you a lot, but you seemed kinda set on this other guy. Still want you, but I’ll behave lol.”
I responded with
“I see, well it appears you wanted her more so I’m glad it worked out for you two. I’m doing well.”
He then said,
“Eh not wanted more necessarily just that you wanted someone else and the situation felt messy and you had an established relationship with him already and seemed set on that. Certainly felt more chemistry and passion with you but who knows how things will turn out long term.”
This guy is in his 30s. So is his gf. I feel so bad for her being with this slimy man child. I’m glad that he stopped pursuing something with me and I didn’t contact him again for awhile since I figured someone who really wants me will continue to make an effort as I’m vetting. I hate men like this. Using women as a “bookmark” until they can get with someone they’re lusting after more. Wasting his ex’s precious time. Having a smug attitude about; “we’ll see how long it goes this time, but who knows?!”
I’m debating on messaging her and showing screenshots…. Idk if that’s overstepping though. I just would want to know if my partner was being an asshole so I could dump him, so I want to help her too? Ah
Ugh why are men such clowns, if the one you want doesn't seem to want you back then it doesn't follow that you "need" to go back to your ex. Like wtf. Imagine how she must feel, hey babe I guess I'm stuck with you after all because that other woman rejected me, aren't you glad? The audacity...
Reaches out to you unprompted to let you know he's back with his ex, but "will behave." Sir is literally in the process of misbehaving. It blows my mind how they think they can control the definitions of words as well as how others perceive them. (TRA, MRA, porn addicts unite! Women having thoughts is our kryptonite! Lol)
"AcKsHuLlY I liked you more, that's why I didn't pursue you, sat back and expected you to tapdance. You're supposed to dance when I go cold. It didn't work so I gave up, now I'm trying to triangulate. I'm allergic to effort and accountability. Here's a message both bragging and whining about my new relationship."
I feel bad for his gf too, shes experiencing "Woe is me, I need novelty" from him right now. Right after giving him another chance.
It's crazy how so many men have become so lazy and complacent with the dating dance, that a woman who is seeing multiple men is a sign for them to immediately back away from her and go for the easiest pussy (ie his ex-gf) instead of.. idk, working harder at proving himself to be the better mate for you instead of the other guy you're seeing?
But also, in the end, I say, you've done a wonderful job handling this with grace. You did what you were supposed to do, in not putting all your eggs in one basket/scrote and keeping a rotation, even if it's just two men. He couldn't keep up, so back he went with his ex. He's basically the weakest link and now you have another man who's probably more keen on you.
The trash took itself out. Don't worry about the text message. He thought he could zap you with some pain before he made his exit. Slam the door nice and loud once he's out so he knows better than to hit you up again down the road.
I’d put him but be prepared for the fallout. The worst is if she doesn’t believe you and they both attack!
She prob thought it was worth trying with her ex again because, “he’s changed.” And yet he still sucks and is shady. I know I shouldn't have messaged back at all, but tbh I had a feeling he wanted to triangulate us so I pressed lightly to see his true colors, wanted something I could send her to warn her too. He's shown he's already emotionally unfaithful.