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This may pi$$ a few people off here, and in the name of all of us leveling up, I'm ok with that: I'm not going to name any names, but this has to be said: If you give into nihilism- it's not a flex.
It's not a flex to not care so much that you become a LV pick me.
Being detached and unbothered is healthy and high value. but this is not the same as being indifferent and defeatist about everything.
For anyone who is inevitably going to be triggered by what i've said and may misconstrue it: I'm not saying you have to be a trad wife housemaid hand maid in service and whoring herself off to everyone.
also, I'm not giving that clarification to manage your triggers- they are your triggers, after all. I'm saying that because for anyone here genuinely in good faith seeking to 'fds' their life, if you find yourself having given into nihilism, defeatism, blah blah blah, you're not winning. and by winning, i'm not saying in comparison to anyone else. just you. You're letting your self down. You deserve better.
back to my point. I'm not talking about sacrificing yourself for others needs at the cost of yourself. I'm talking about being a decent human, high value, and making a contribution to life, your loved ones, yourself, and the world. Not because you care about what anyone else thinks.
If you give in to nihilism you are dropping to the level of pick mes and scrotes alike. IMO nihilism is antithetical to FDS, and is very destructive and toxic. FDS which is all about living a HIGH value life. Yes, this means your benefit first and foremost, and it also means Not being a perpetual victim, not being perpetually reactionary to the low value drivel around us. Which nihilism is. It's reactionary.
Get in the drivers seat of your life and your desires and start CREATING and CONTRIBUTING. create your own table if the bulk of the world's tables are toxic.
but down-shooting anyone who is out there and actually trying to make a difference is lazy at best, and toxic and pick me at worst.
My take on your post is probably projection from my own life, but I can agree on the whole nihilism thing when ex friends of mine had given up on their level up journeys just to take the easy/lazy route instead. For example, I had friends who used to be HV who felt it was too hard to go to therapy, upskill, find hobbies and learn things like financial independence so they suddenly gave up like "I'm just gonna quit my career and marry rich so I don't have to do anything". That's their choice, but I had to distance myself because it made them complacent/complicit with the Patriarchy, engage in pickme behaviors again and act very self absorbed. So I can see it being nihilistic or "defeatist". Giving up on levelling up is like giving up on yourself, which is a huge shame and hopefully those women can come around before it's too late.
Hmm this is kind of vague since you didn't refer to any actual beliefs that have been stated but I assume you mean general pessimism over men? I agree with the perpetual victimhood thing, but grace is also important.
I think it's absolutely warranted after a lifetime of brainwashing to the contrary that men are these knights in shining amour and that there's "someone for everybody". Especially that you will find them soon enough if you just do your very best and make all the right choices, but that is simply not true. Read the political climate right now, we don't exist in a vaccum.
You can't really change anything until you acknowledge what is wrong, and sometimes that takes us through a period of pessimism and anger. Sometimes people have hope and work hard towards a vision but when there are inevitable setbacks we can occasionally slide back into pessimism. We are all on our own journey and who are you to assign value to people you don't even know?
And the term pick-me has nothing to do with nihlism, in fact its the opposite. It's a delusional optimism that your self sacrificing will pay off and a refusal to see male behaviour for what it is, aka you will do anything to get someone to like you who doesn't even like you.
Who is this post for? Nihilism isnt about being depressed they just don't care or opt out of brainwash beliefs. You sound like religious nuts who think atheism is evil, when its just not believing in religion, sorry.