Guy I’m seeing referred to himself as “Peter Pan” this morning and now I’m worried.

He's self aware enough to know how immature and emotionally stunted he is

Someone identifying himself as Peter Pan means he does not want to behave like an adult. He feels justified in remaining a child and never growing up.

Hard to know what he actually meant without knowing the context of the conversation. Does he mean he enjoys active, playful sports with his friends on Saturday like paintball, skating or soccer?

Or does he mean not valuing knowing how to balance a checkbook or paying bills on time because that's unfun adult stuff?

Man-child alert. That's a bad thing when a man starts saying that he's Peter Pan or a child at heart. Men are big children by default without their video game addiction or childlike needs and you don't need a man who embraces his man-child philosophy.

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People who "just" have a playful side but know that they also must behave like adults don't call themselves Peter Pan. This is always men who think they're whimsical and special but they're actually, literally stuck at 16 years old in their development. Really cringey stuff.

It's a disclaimer so he can later claim you knew what you were getting into.

Look up "Peter Pan syndrome". Huge red flag.

I consider myself to be more Pan-like than most - Pan as in the Greekgod. I reserve that part of my personality however with other playful people and only turn it on when it’s appropriate. Everything in moderation. If you’re going out for the night to have a good time, a little Pan is fun. If you need emotional support Pan ain’t the one.

I suppose you need to find out if he’s all Pan or is he only Pan when he’s relaxed and able to be silly without harming others.

I dated a guy that was super playful and in the beginning it was a blast - both of us were practical jokers - but when it came time to be serious, he couldn’t put pan away. My mom was actually dying and he just couldn’t hold proper space for me, so that was that.

Not harsh, red flag, block and delete!

That’s concerning. What was the context in which he said this? (If there even was any)

When a man tells you who he is believe him. Describing himself as Peter Pan is him admitting he's foolish, immature, and delusional. He's 28 and admitting he's a man-child.

When men talk about themselves like this, I always say let them talk because they tell on themselves and if you continue to see him, his actions will prove to you he's childish and immature.

You deserve a mature and level headed ADULT who is responsible. Fds is about finding a serious relationship and a lot of us are marriage minded. A man child is not who you want around if you get sick, pregnant, or if anything else happens.

Remember the more time you waste on a man who isn't the right one, the more chances of meeting a hvm you prevent.

This is at least a yellow flag. I don't know the context of the conversation, but I bet he will start showing signs of immaturity sooner or later.

Men are, by default, more immature than women their own age. If he considers himself even more immature than his age, that's not a good sign.

Are you dating this guy?

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The original Peter pan book was a critique on men who wouldn't grow up. That's all I'm gonna say