Can you ever be in an equal relationship with a man in a society where men and women are unequal?

You CAN, but it's extremely rare for a man to come to the conclusion ON HIS OWN that women are real people. What's much more likely is that you'd lay out hoops for him, and he'll jump through them, and then act differently when you aren't around. These guys grew up on pornhub, and don't really fantasize about actual relationships with women. If you want LOVE, you should be with other women. I'd say pets, but even that's a slave relationship. Date hypergamously, and always have a way out that implodes his shit on the way if he mistreats you. Truly equitable men are rare, and there's more of us LOOKING for that, then there are OF that.

No. The reason is what you wrote. In the end, men have the power to kill you or let you live and it's just a matter of how he's feeling about you. It's his decision. He could snap your neck if he's having a bad day. Men are emotional, meaning they are dominated by their anger and it's dangerous.

Excellent question. This is exactly why we a) don't date much older men, and b) remember that we are the prize and we deserve to be treated like queens by our partners because they will almost always have more social power than us. HVM understand this and treat us accordingly.

No. Women have been cognitively programmed by a long history of patriarchy to project humanity onto men where it doesn't exist. In that regard, even if all other factors (social, economic, legal, etc) were evened out, it would not address the issue of men's inability to cognize women as Human while women see "too much" Human in them and, as a result, continue to think these are beings that one can make a meaningful and fulfilling life with. Because, frankly speaking, I think the real end goal of patriarchy is just that: tricking women into making their lives with men, which improves the lives of men.

I don't really think so.

If a man ended up in an equal place as me (equal financially, equal social capital, equal strength, etc) then he's a subpar partner to me.

A man who is my intellectual equal and puts as much effort into his life as I put into mine, which is who I'd want to date, is very likely going to end up stronger, richer, with more social capital, etc.

So yeah, I want a man who will treat me as an equally valuable human, but he will likely have more power in the world in general (and for my current partner that is true).

So part of assessing if I'm treated how I want to be treated is if he actually uses that power to build me up, honor me, protect me, all that jazz.

And I have enough of my own power, support network, financial independence, etc to peace out if it goes tits up.

I feel like this is why we are the prize and they are not. They should be putting in more effort since we have much more risk and lower chance of reward interacting with and dating them.

Very thought provoking question. It is hard to quantify in my mind, how much more does a man need to bring in order to be equal? I don't know if it really ever can be. We subconsciously often put in 100 percent, while a man bringing 10 percent still is seen as superior.

Look at the fathers who come along to like one of the prenatal appointments and get praised for it, meanwhile the woman is carrying the baby taking on all the risk and doesn't get praised for coming to all of them even though she pretty much has to.

My sister didn't know she was pregnant for the first 5 months on her first pregnancy and used to smoke a lot of weed. She did quit once she found out, but tested dirty and got put on watch for it for that and her other two preganancies after. They even went in the hospital room and interrogated her when her first son was born, and drug tested her(but she came up negative of course) The doctors chastised her for it while praising her husband for coming to one fricken appointment the whole time.