I have a former friend I had lost touch with out of high school. A few years later, I met up with her and her (at the time) husband. She revealed that she had been escorting out of school and faced severe psychological trauma from what happened. She said something along the lines of, "I will be dealing with this trauma the rest of my life."
Her husband passed away a year or so later. And, she had no financial means of her own, and returned to escorting (she was reluctant to tell me). She enrolled in school, got a job at a big corporation, but was still escorting. She told me that she liked her lifestyle of being able to buy whatever she wanted, having nicer things, and escorting allowed her to do this.
I wound up falling on some financial hardships of my own and also went through a (at the time) devastating break-up. She kept asking if I wanted to do a "double" with her (basically a threesome with her and a "client"). I told her I couldn't do it and found it super predatory!
The last straw was when she came over to my apartment with $4500 cash and told me to hold the money, smell the money. I told her how offended and disgusted I was, how uncomfortable she made me feel, and she basically told me that "she wished the best for me in life" and blocked me.
I just wonder what she would want that type of life for her friend? She had revealed to me before how traumatizing it was but she fell so deep into the sex work rabbit hole that she was advocating the rape industry to her friend that was going through some hardships.
Money comes and goes as it is earned and spent, but trauma can never be erased. I’m so glad you were able to see clearly and protect yourself rather than harming yourself in an attempt to make it through a difficult circumstance.
I think “the rape industry” is a perfect renaming of “sex work.” Any type of legitimate work does not cause lifelong trauma.
I have a former friend I had lost touch with out of high school. A few years later, I met up with her and her (at the time) husband. She revealed that she had been escorting out of school and faced severe psychological trauma from what happened. She said something along the lines of, "I will be dealing with this trauma the rest of my life."
Her husband passed away a year or so later. And, she had no financial means of her own, and returned to escorting (she was reluctant to tell me). She enrolled in school, got a job at a big corporation, but was still escorting. She told me that she liked her lifestyle of being able to buy whatever she wanted, having nicer things, and escorting allowed her to do this.
I wound up falling on some financial hardships of my own and also went through a (at the time) devastating break-up. She kept asking if I wanted to do a "double" with her (basically a threesome with her and a "client"). I told her I couldn't do it and found it super predatory!
The last straw was when she came over to my apartment with $4500 cash and told me to hold the money, smell the money. I told her how offended and disgusted I was, how uncomfortable she made me feel, and she basically told me that "she wished the best for me in life" and blocked me.
I just wonder what she would want that type of life for her friend? She had revealed to me before how traumatizing it was but she fell so deep into the sex work rabbit hole that she was advocating the rape industry to her friend that was going through some hardships.