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I don’t know about ya’ll, but I’ve somehow been inundated by videos from this “Ben and Zara” duo. Basically, it’s a father and daughter who like to lip-synch to 90s hip hop.
The whole shtick is that it’s a father who is constantly surprised by his daughter’s appreciation for, and immense talent for emulating, artists who are well before her time.
Commenters get a kick out of this “super dad” and his unique bond with his daughter.
As someone who suffered through a custody battle with a narc, all I can think is:
God help that mother
I’m not even sure if she’s still in the picture- videos don’t seem to make
reference to her.
But if they were to go head to head for custody- imagine how that would play out?
Just LOOK at all the video evidence of all the times they’ve shared together.
And imagine all of the “character witnesses” who might step up to vouch for him.
Where is poor Mama?
Is she an introvert, as wives of narcs so often are? Is she the one doing the majority of the housework and childrearing, with no recognition, as wives of narcs so often do? Is she the one silently holding this all together so Daddy can home drunk after banging some YouTube Fan? (“I know you have other things you want to do right now, Zara, but we’ve got bills to pay!”)
YES, I’m skeptical. YES, I think the worst of men. Truth is, they’ve never proven me wrong so far.
For all we know, this is another Britney Spears hostage situation. Sure, this girl smiles on camera- but she is an ACTRESS. Who has been trained by an ACTOR (dude was a child actor since age 9 or something, don’t make me look it up… it’s too boring).
Lord, help all the women married to narcs. Help all the children being USED by narcs. And help the general public to see this for what it is:
CHILD LABOR.
It's fucking horrible that adults can make money off their kids on social media. I can't understand how it's legal.
All of this!
Men who go viral for being in their children’s lives always make me laugh. Men will go viral for plaiting their daughters hair or cooking pancakes. Many of them are performing for an audience of women who’ll swoon over them for doing the bare minimum. This makes it obvious that men don’t do these things in general which is why these videos go viral but then people will tell me that the majority of men are good people who do those things. Yeah, sure. Please 🙄.
A lot of these men want to be the fun, cool dad who puts on a show in videos but are scrotish in one way or another once the filming stops. I agree that if his daughter isn’t with him full time and her mother were to ever fight for full custody, he could easily show these videos as evidence that he’s a good, involved dad. We know how men fight for custody of children they don’t want to get back at the mother for daring to leave him.
Like you, I don’t trust men at all and haven’t been proven wrong so whenever I see one who seems like a “good guy”, I’m always waiting for the other shoe to drop.
I've long held the belief that most (if not all) men who are visible in media (e.g., Hollywood actors, comedians, influencers, TV talk show hosts, high-profile politicians, pop stars) are narcs.
Also:
"Is she an introvert, as wives of narcs so often are?"
You've hit the nail on the head. I've noticed this as well.
I'm uninspired by the tendency to label everyone with a bad personality as a "narc". It's more effective to describe the behavior - selfish, inconsiderate, self-absorbed, arrogant, cruel, etc.
But every single one of these parents making money by making their children perform for social media are reprehensible. An epidemic of micro-scale stage moms (sometimes dads) and the dads (sometimes moms) who sit idly by allowing it.
I've never seen these people, but it strikes me as a particularly insidious grift to have a dad at the helm of this account. Because you know it's women* who enjoy this content, and most of them are pickmes. So as much as those women might like to see social media accounts of moms with their kids, pickmes will go nuts for a man doing the same thing (I.e. the phenomenon where average women are devalued while average men are treated like gods).
I wouldnt be surprised if the mom was in the home, but the dad insists on pretending she doesnt exist on camera so that his female fans can fantasize about being with him.
*edit to add: of course also men "enjoy" this content, but all a parent has to do to pander to pedos is put a kid in a video. They all have that. This guy has an advantage over mom content creators by being a man, and thereby pandering to pickmes.
The bar is in hell for men. They literally do what they’re supposed to be doing and get so much praise!
I can’t stand that.
I also dislike the culture of monetizing EVERYTHING. We can’t just live life anymore.
But i especially dislike monetizing children who can’t consent to having their entire lives online.
Because who really is watching and subscribing to these accounts? It’s usually grown men.
These parents need to be looked at. It’s mothers and fathers that do this. There’s even stories out now of parents making subscriptions so adults can have more content of their children or speak to their children. WHO IS SUBSCRIBING TO THIS?! It’s disgusting.
As for this guy, I’ve never heard of him. But just from the description it sounds like he’s full of himself. Probably no one cares about content if it was just him. So he brought his daughter into his content to expolit.