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I don’t know about ya’ll, but I’ve somehow been inundated by videos from this “Ben and Zara” duo. Basically, it’s a father and daughter who like to lip-synch to 90s hip hop.
The whole shtick is that it’s a father who is constantly surprised by his daughter’s appreciation for, and immense talent for emulating, artists who are well before her time.
Commenters get a kick out of this “super dad” and his unique bond with his daughter.
As someone who suffered through a custody battle with a narc, all I can think is:
God help that mother
I’m not even sure if she’s still in the picture- videos don’t seem to make
reference to her.
But if they were to go head to head for custody- imagine how that would play out?
Just LOOK at all the video evidence of all the times they’ve shared together.
And imagine all of the “character witnesses” who might step up to vouch for him.
Where is poor Mama?
Is she an introvert, as wives of narcs so often are? Is she the one doing the majority of the housework and childrearing, with no recognition, as wives of narcs so often do? Is she the one silently holding this all together so Daddy can home drunk after banging some YouTube Fan? (“I know you have other things you want to do right now, Zara, but we’ve got bills to pay!”)
YES, I’m skeptical. YES, I think the worst of men. Truth is, they’ve never proven me wrong so far.
For all we know, this is another Britney Spears hostage situation. Sure, this girl smiles on camera- but she is an ACTRESS. Who has been trained by an ACTOR (dude was a child actor since age 9 or something, don’t make me look it up… it’s too boring).
Lord, help all the women married to narcs. Help all the children being USED by narcs. And help the general public to see this for what it is:
CHILD LABOR.
I'm uninspired by the tendency to label everyone with a bad personality as a "narc". It's more effective to describe the behavior - selfish, inconsiderate, self-absorbed, arrogant, cruel, etc.
But every single one of these parents making money by making their children perform for social media are reprehensible. An epidemic of micro-scale stage moms (sometimes dads) and the dads (sometimes moms) who sit idly by allowing it.
I've never seen these people, but it strikes me as a particularly insidious grift to have a dad at the helm of this account. Because you know it's women* who enjoy this content, and most of them are pickmes. So as much as those women might like to see social media accounts of moms with their kids, pickmes will go nuts for a man doing the same thing (I.e. the phenomenon where average women are devalued while average men are treated like gods).
I wouldnt be surprised if the mom was in the home, but the dad insists on pretending she doesnt exist on camera so that his female fans can fantasize about being with him.
*edit to add: of course also men "enjoy" this content, but all a parent has to do to pander to pedos is put a kid in a video. They all have that. This guy has an advantage over mom content creators by being a man, and thereby pandering to pickmes.