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Anyone here watch this channel?
I've been thinking about what it is that has caused so many people to fall for what appears to outsiders as such an obvious scam. It's mostly a lot of older folks(like 60's+) who I feel tend to have more internet naivete than younger folks, although there's been some younger men and women on there as well.
It's interesting to see the ones where the women get scammed because I think it speaks a lot to what women desire, what is lacking in the current dating sphere, the way in which women have been told to accept or celebrate little breadcrumbs. When it comes to the men, I think it goes to show what they think is acceptable in a relationship and how they view women.
As an example of my last two points, they will show the conversation between the two people. I see often with the men there will be very basic, short exchanges that aren't particularly deep or thoughtful. Very one-sided convo with the man, and the scammer giving one, two, three word responses. Sound familiar? As a woman idk how many times I've had this one sided convo with a man dominating it, and then with all my lukewarm one worded responses talks about how great our conversation was. With the female victims, the conversations might be similar but they seem to either enjoy the frequency at which they can text/call the man/scammer; they're getting attention more than they did an ex or they will say it was nice to have someone to get a good morning/night from.
Almost every single video I watch speaks to the way in which men just see pretty women as status objects for emotional fufillment, and the way women are desperate for literally just any bit of positive attention from men - or in the case of scammers who are rude, the social status/emotional fufillment of being in a 'relationship' or at least talking to some attractive guy. The fake men will have some up job that makes a lot of money or is attractive socially. The fake men might be younger in comparison to the woman but usually 40's-50's. The fake women tend to be models but usually are young and pretty and generally 20's-30's.
I feel bad for the women ultimately, but this also has drove home how important it is to decenter men in your life, lest you crave positive male validation so badly that you will overlook some very obvious scammy behavior just for that bit of dopamine.
I have a lot of sympathy for women who get scammed on these online scams because I really feel like they're not entirely to blame. Society grooms women from a young age with messages like "Give him the benefit of the doubt" and "Give him another chance", which is the worst thing in the world to do when online dating (or talking to anyone online). In addition, society constantly tells women that they're nothing without a man so it's understandable that a woman might buy into the fantasy that this man she's talking to online is her dream man.
I really feel that the man who scam women in this way are the lowest of the low. Not only do they steal their money but they fool them into thinking that they're in a relationship so from the woman's perspective it feels like a massive betrayal. Thankfully nothing like this has ever happened to me but if it did, I think the feeling of being betrayed by someone I thought that I could trust would actually be the most hurtful aspect for me.
I love this show, my fiancé and I watch it every Wednesday when they come out with new videos, it's entertaining.
I don't usually feel bad for any of these people, they're almost all shallow and delusional. It's unfortunate that they get scammed for so much money, but I wonder if they would ever be willing to offer their family the same amount of money they send to scammers, I doubt it.
I really believe some people are just too naive to even be using the internet.
I've said this before but old men are worse than younger men because the misogyny has had time to marinate
I never heard of this channel! But I'm obsessed with it now!
I do feel bad for some of the women because a lot of them are lonely and seem to just want someone to talk to. So they seem to do whatever to keep this guy talking and giving attention. There's been a few women where I didn't feel that bad for them but from what I've seen it's the minority.
I do not feel bad for any man at all on there. They're old and gross and want 20 year olds. I'm glad when the men get scammed.
I watch it every Wednesday morning, I feel like I learn so much about human nature and what being lonely and no self worth along with living outside of reality can do to a women, making FDS an even more important part of my life.
I think it is balanced in the sense that it’s both men and women’s stories being told. I even find there to be little gender differences in how it plays out.
When they reflect on there story and say we just had the deepest conversations and then they show them and they are they the most surface level interactions, most times coming from these romance scam networks, it’s literally copy and paste.
I find it extremely difficult to empathize with almost and maybe all of them because in every situation it should be obvious, big age difference, sometimes they think they are dating celebrities, and always the scammed is an average to below average looks and the scammer is a well above and sometimes even model level attractive.
I can honestly say this show has been a big motivator for me to love myself and take care of myself, as a single mother, who married young and stay that way 15 years, is fresh into the dating scene with little experience in my late thirties, without a strong sense of self and awareness, and given I am Autistic, I think I would be a good target for this type of situation.
Another reason is older people aren't as internet-speak literate, for lack of a better term.
Most people in their 30s and younger who grew up using the internet can easily identify emails that use very scammy language (e.g., Nigerian prince promises). Usually, there are many grammatical mistakes, the graphics looks like copypasta, and the language just sounds off.
I had a friend whose 60-plus-year-old mom got scammed a few times because she was not accustomed to using the internet and could not differentiate the language and graphics of a scam email from those of a "normal" email. She wasn't stupid or illiterate--she just wasn't used to noticing these sorts of discrepancies before someone pointed them out to her.
I've been watching that channel lately, too. And speaking of patterns - I wind up feeling sorry for the poor female victims getting scammed out of their money when they just wanted a relationship with a nice man, but all the male victims are womanizing pieces of shit and I dont feel sorry for them at all.
The women are all single, many describe having been abused by ex husbands, etc. They might have pickme tendencies, but they dont deserve to be robbed by creepy scammer males over it.
The men on the other hand are old, ugly, balding, delusional narcs who believe they have harems of beautiful 23yo models chasing after them online. These men are often married, essentially cheating on their wives with the scammers. They reveal that they're just holding onto their wives for domestic labor until they're united with their fake girlfriends. The scammers (always male, usually from Nigeria) often pretend to be disadvantaged young women, especially from Eastern Europe, and which means the scrotes are basically courting male-order brides.
So I really dont care about that male-on-male crime. Those men deserve to have bad things happen to them.