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Selena Gomez says we live in a world where boys confuse having standards with being high-maintenance.
During a SiriusXM radio appearance to promote her new song "Single Soon," Gomez opened up about her views on dating and what she looks for in a partner.
"I think I have standards, and I think I live in a world right now where boys confuse standards with high maintenance," Gomez told "Hits 1 LA" hosts Tony Fly and Symon.
Referring to some lyrics in "Single Soon" where she called herself "high-maintenance," Gomez explained that she enjoyed recording the line because it captured what she truly felt.
"The line was really fun because I'm not ashamed to say, 'I actually require X, Y, and Z for you to be with me,'" the 31-year-old said. "So in a way, it was just meant to be for the attitude of the song, and that's genuinely what I feel."
When prompted by the two radio hosts, Gomez elaborated on what some of those requirements were for her.
"You gotta be cool, man. Not cool in the sense that people think you're cool. You just gotta be nice and like, please make me laugh and also just be good to my family and people around you," Gomez said.
The former Disney Channel star has had several high-profile relationships in the past, including with Justin Bieber, The Weeknd, and Nick Jonas.
But for now, Gomez is enjoying being on her own.
"I think everybody goes through the phase of, 'Oh, it'd be nice to like have someone,' and I get that," the singer said. However, her priority right now is to be happy with herself.
"But you know, I'm just enjoying where I'm at and I just want to be happy with who I am so that whenever that person comes into my life, I can just have them add on to me instead of being this insecure, you know, person that I normally used to be," Gomez said.
Her latest song was a way of celebrating singlehood, she added: "It's basically my way of saying it's totally okay being on your own and it's fun."
Men fail to realise that if women had no standards or requirements at all, a lot of us would be dead or in abusive relationships. We have standards because we don't want to waste our energy on scrotes who have nothing to give to us in return.
“Being cool” in the way she mentioned is bare minimum, yet some men will still get mad at her for saying that. I’m sure she has more requirements than that and just felt shy to bring it up because of the scrutiny any of her standards would be under.
Happy for her though showing that she's becoming more secure with herself as she grows into her 30s and shamelessly proclaims she has standards.
I am glad she has finally found her worth.