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A couple of days ago, I made a post where I took the initiative to ask someone new to my city to hangout as "friends." I made a post about it where many reminded me that I already went against FDS principles because the guy I dmed gave an extremely lukewarm wishy washy answer. It wasn't easy to read the answers but it was necessary because the answers were correct. Let men take the lead to ask you out.
I watch Bachelor In Paradise because it's fun and yesterday, one of the main contestants, Andrew, left paradise because he had strong feelings for Teddi, a previous contestant paired up with him who left a couple weeks ago. Andrew strung along another woman, Jessenia, and literally made out with a different woman in front of Jessenia. Andrew finally admitted to Jessenia, after she had to preen it out of him why he was never so invested in her because of Teddi. Jessenia went after Andrew. She initiated the pursuit.
Long story short, men will waste your time. They will string women along and shows like BIP, are the perfect example of why men should pursue women. I'm not perfect at carrying out the FDS principles but I am getting better.
I'm sure a lot of us have chased/waited/etc. For men. Congrats on understanding why not to do that. I have been learning and implementing learnt lessons too. All the best :D
I know it might not be FDS aligned but it works the other way as well, because I have been with men who pursued me strongly just because I was alone and didn’t know how to say no, thinking I would hurt them so much. Maybe it’s just human nature, the pursuer for sure is interested, the pursued might or might not be, regardless of gender.
i also think it's best when the man takes initiative, but what if he has a shy personality? and what if the woman is more of an extrovert? if they are both interested in each other, why can't she take initiative? also, it's very common for men to persue and then give up after they get your attention. maybe it's an ego thing.