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40% of all American children are now born to single mothers, according to the CDC and the Brookings Institute. This is a huge upswing from just 11% of all American children born to single mothers in the 1970s. Shotgun weddings were a thing in America in the 1970s, with San Francisco residents telling pollsters there wasn't a choice: if he got a woman pregnant, he married her. With the mindless messaging from libfem that "marriage is just a piece of paper", out of wedlock births became less and less subject to social stigma. The result? Children born to single mothers are far more likely to live in poverty (one income vs. dual income household) than those born to a couple. Children born to single mothers are also far more likely to experience traumatic upheaval (frequent moves, unstable home life, lack of childcare options due to a worsening economic climate etc) which can result in behavioral and health issues.
We at FDS know better than the libfem lie that "marriage is just a piece of paper". With marriage comes property and ownership rights, health and life insurance that could be critical in an emergency. Marriage is no piece of paper. It is something that the gay rights movement fought heavily for for decades. Marriage can be referred to in law as the "estate of marriage", so tangible and heavy is its crown.
It takes two to tango. For mostly all (sperm donors, adoption, etc excluded) out of wedlock birth there is a father figure somewhere nearby. That is now 40% of births! Those men, formerly just part of 11% of births, feed into the dating pool. While the mother is saddled with the bulk of the childcare and child rearing, without a marriage the argument for child support (which is difficult to get already) falls apart. What happens to these deadbeat dads? Do they keep to the shadows, improving themselves? Do these LVM/NVM realize they helped give life and should help raise it? Do these men realize society depends on them doing the right thing? NO.
These LVM / NVM deadbeat dads have absolutely zero guilt re-entering the dating field knowing their children are somewhere out there missing their dad. Clues you're talking to a deadbeat dad include:
- He's shady about his living situation due to the kids/baby mother occasionally (or frequently) being present
- NO pictures with exes. His main ex is his baby mother and he doesn't want her on his socials while he's chatting up other women, duh
- General dislike of "the courts", "court system favoring women / females"
- Comparing everything and everyone to his ex (the baby mother)
- Cyclical relationship with his baby mother: he goes back to her regularly etc.
- Obsession with his baby mother
- Strong belief that he can "do better" than his baby mother
Personally, I would never want to be around a man and his baby mother and his kids....no thanks. I know that environment is not conducive to my health or growth and is not for me. Thus I avoid single fathers like the plague.
We need to start shifting our focus on deadbeat dads instead of single moms...I'm tired of everyone giving single moms shit and pointing fingers at them, when the real problem is the neglectful dads, who create the single moms in the first ...men out here are hoeing around sticking their flip flaps in every woman with zero sense of responsibility...male promiscuousity is a huge problem and is not talked about enough either. Instead of getting mad at the women who STAYED, we should be mad at the men who STRAYED.
THIS. I was browsing the stepparents SR today and just wanted to vomit. Post after post of young, naive, stepmoms wondering why their partners were treating them like shit and refusing to set boundaries with their kids/birth mothers and parent their children. If you ever want a reason to not date a man with kids, go check it out, it will make you immediately grab your parachute and GTFO.
Let's get one thing straight and it's that the court system does not favor women. We have decades of proof to show that patriarchy exists in our justice system. I won't hear it from anyone who suggests otherwise tbh (even if that is the unpopular opinion, which I seem to frequently have 🤷♀️🤷♀️). Avoid single fathers!!! They always lie about their situation. Besides, why should YOU be the one to saddle unsettled trauma from the children who are stuck in an uncontrollable situation (for them) between their parents? Fathers face very little consequences for being single dads as it is. Don't give them or their kids ammo to hurt you by dating them.
Pro-female court system? Say what?? 🤡 The same court system in which 99% of rape cases go unpunished??? That court system????
Forgot to mention, plenty of women with male partners are basically single mothers anyway. Women still do a hugely disproportionate amount of childcare, scheduling, etc. Dads just do all the fun stuff, steal the quality moments, and get to be the good guy parent while moms actually do the important shit.
The problem, like you said OP, is the poverty that often comes with involuntary single motherhood in this country. But society, especially the dipshit misogynists of reddit, don't understand this and think women are incomplete parents. There's no need for males who usually do jack fucking shit anyway. The mother child relationship is the most important psychologically and plenty of kids do fine with single moms. But of course, they want to have their cake and eat it too. They want to claim they're equal parents and are being discriminated against (a fat fucking lie), while simultaneously being absolved of all responsibility if the kid comes out bad. They want to take full custody when they want it or ditch the kid with no financial consequence when they want. Basically, like with everything, they want full control and yet another set of double standards in their favor while claiming victimhood. The actual statistics show that the family court is in FAVOR of men. The reason most custody goes to women is because men are willfully absentee/deadbeat and don't even try for or want custody. The cases that actually go to court end up with the male winning or getting at least split custody the majority of the time because the standard for fathers is so rock bottom low because of the countless trash dads. I wish more women realized single motherhood by choice is a thing and you don't need to risk fighting with the sperm person for YOUR child that you risked your life to birth. Yeah society judges you, but it judges women constantly anyway, so why risk ending up in a devastating and painful custody battle that people are rooting for you to lose in?