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For those of you have girls (esp. in teen years) in your life that aren't your own children but whom you care about very much and have influence over (nieces, children of friends, children you are around via volunteering), do any of you slip in teachings (or even explicitly teach) principles of FDS? I feel like this is difficult given lib feminism being mainstream....and most moms, while things are getting a little better re: talk around "mental load" etc., would not consider themselves FDS.
If you do pass on your wisdom, in what context? Do you speak of dating boys/men at all? Or exclusively focus on self-esteem/financial independence? I ask because even women with high self-esteem and financial independence, without the education of the realities of male nature, can fall into romance traps due to naïveté, empathy projection (ie "i see HIM as a human so he must see me as one too"), and social pressure in general encouraging women/girls to be pickmes.
What are your teaching strategies, for those who need it most?
Not with other people's kids, no.
Basically never, but maybe there's a nice way to tell the mom she's setting her kid up to be eaten alive by males.
Hoping enough adult women gain solidarity to where it's just a norm where kids can see the results.
I'm single and childfree. My female friends have kids under 7s but most are boys. I warned them about the groomers lurking on the internet and they responded with "Yeah, of course I'm aware!" But still let their kids browse tiktok without supervision as young as 3, so...
They also still entrenched in tradwife mentality even when they're in a double income household. And pickme mindset like "give him a chance" "support men" etc. Add LVM dads into the mix.
If I were going to talk about FDS to their girls, I'd totally have to go against what the girls were taught and are seeing at home. I'm not sure I'd have the capacity and capability to.
Men are raised to be ruthless in pursuit of their self interest. While I wouldn’t want my daughter to just not gaf about other people, I’d want her to be prepared to acquire the skills she needs to compete with men in the workforce. I’d expose her to engineering, science, business, finance at a young age. Teach her to uphold standards and boundaries in various situations. Have emotional intelligence and bond with people, but to not let their words and actions impact her self worth and feelings about herself.
I would want my daughter to learn how to negotiate for things and to be comfortable with self promotion (I still struggle with this). These skills would ensure she is competitive to pursue similar opportunities and earn similar incomes as men in her chosen profession. As a bare minimum anyway.
This is all ideal. But I’d try for this