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Society groomed us to believe that to reject a man is "mean", "cruel" and "unnecessary". That if you reject a man you are "too picky". These are FALSEHOODS. One doesn't have to go far in the media sphere to see supposedly strong and relatable female characters saying things like "but he's so NICE!" or "I feel TOO BAD to cut him loose!" Not today, media! Rejection is a powerful way to keep your own sanity and the sanity of those around you.
Case Study:
Chicago Sun-Times journalist Neil Steinberg tweeted yesterday, asking "why restrict ch1ld p0rn but not guns?" WOW. Not interested in a gun or constitutional debate atm but if you've been following FDS for awhile, you are aware that knowing how to defend yourself as a woman is very important. Were there red flags from Steinberg before this insane tweet? Yes! Steinberg was denied a firearm purchase in Illinois due to his record of spousal abuse and drunken behavior. Steinberg wrote about it at length and still has his job (can you imagine - do I have to reference Amber Heard's loss of income at this point?). Steinberg is married (!) and his wife has not kicked him out or filed for divorce during this saga. If she had, maybe Steinberg would be engaged in self-reflection and not tweeting insane shit. If the Chicago Sun-Times had fired Steinberg or put him on leave, maybe Steinberg would be engaged in self-reflection. I do not want this to seem like I am blaming his wife for Steinberg's batshittery because I am not. I am simply using Steinberg as a case study on the power of rejection: the crazy spiral when rejection to men does not occur.
Men operate on a very binary basis. Risk and Reward. Risk and Reward. If they suffer immediate consequences from decisions, that is actually good for the man. I could delve into Christian tomes for this, cataloging the sinful fall and rise of St. Augustine, but I won't. The point remains that rejection is GOOD and we should not be guilted for exercising it.
Probably an unpopular opinion here but I actually really like rejecting men. Especially when they're super smug about asking you out, like they just know you'll say yes despite the fact they have nothing to offer. Seeing the look of disbelief afterwards is priceless.
Rejection is a gift in more ways than that, too.
I wouldn't want to be with somebody who doesn't even really like me, and only stuck around because rejecting me would "feel bad".
Just reject me, tell me straight up not to waste my time and energy on you.
Boggles my mind that there's people who think it's better to string someone along to be "nice". It's not a kindness in the long run.
i recently just turned and walked away from a man while he was talking to me. it was delicious. i only wish i knew what to say directly to his face to shut him down. maybe i should bring charges against him for 4 years of sexual harassment.