Mums with No Xmas Presents

I was married to this and it was one of the primary reasons I divorced him. It wasn't about the gifts, but about his consistently showing me that he didn't respect me and had no regard for my feelings. He went out of his way to not get me anything, to show me how little I meant to him and how unimportant I was in his mind. When I told him I was leaving, he gave me a shocked look and said, "Is this about the presents?" These men know what they're doing and it's a form of emotional abuse. If a man doesn't get you anything for your important dates (birthdays, holidays, anniversaries, etc.) drop him like a hot stone. It only gets worse from there.

The last year I was with my ex he had the audacity to ask me for expensive gifts but when xmas came there were zero presents from him for me or our two little kids. Not even a stocking stuffer or a card. Not candy for the kids. Nothing. I’d finally woken up from the sleep deprivation brain fog babies cause and realized he had never gotten me anything for my birthday or for Xmas in the past.

His face when he got nothing but a tshirt was priceless. His face when I threw all his stuff outside and locked him out on New Year’s Eve was even better. It’s been years and he’s still mad.

When a man doesn’t even think about you to give you a present on a day when everyone is giving you presents —that man doesn’t even like you, let alone love you. Don’t teach him how to pretend he cares, just axe him.

My brother just did this. He is a "stay at home dad" who smokes pot all day while his wife works 60+ hours a week, and he often drops the daughter off AT HER WORK so he can play hockey and go bowling. He apparently bought himself a bowling ball for Christmas with her hard-earned money and didn't get her a thing.

My 7 years old son made me a card and wrote a cute little story by himself, wrapped it and put it under the tree. He won’t even let me see that it’s to me because he wanted to surprise me on Christmas Day. He doesn’t work or have money but he still made me something all by himself and he put effort into it. These moms should get a divorce and dump their husbands. Or not put any effort for anything ever again for anyone. Selfish pricks.

I’ve seen at breaking mom aka a good source of men’s true character where a woman explains that she had her birthday coming up and the husband forgot but didn’t seem to feel bad, the children only made her drawings and the husband only gave her an apron and ironing board to keep on doing the house chores. I would give him the ultimatum. You either go and plan something nice for me or take the ring back. I don’t tolerate nonsense, cold feet or uncaring behaviour from men ever again. They won’t change if you put up with it. They won’t realise that they are being distant to a great woman. They only time men will think about their actions is when they see you leave the house with your suitcase packed.

My ex husband was this guy. The frustrating thing was that he wasn’t like that at all until we got married. So he knew how to give nice gifts, he just didn’t want to take the time or make the effort. He would literally drive over to Walgreens on Christmas Eve and pick some random item from the “Seen on TV” aisle as my gift. Then he would call me materialistic when I didn’t like it. One year our daughter, who was about 9 at the time, noticed my stocking was empty while everyone else’s was overflowing. She got so upset. She LIT into her Dad about not getting me anything. Even though my ex husband and I have now been divorced for many years we still get together to celebrate Christmas - for our daughters sake. Every year our daughter constantly reminds my ex and even goes shopping with him to make sure he has bought items for my stocking and for me. I’m so happy to see that she’s not going to take some guys B.S.

My ex didn’t get me anything for my birthday because he was broke, and when I said I was lonely, he got angry at me because he “already came over.” My pickme self thought that was fine because I just asked for a letter, which he didn't even do. When he got a job, he spent $200 on a COLOGNE because he wanted to peacock for the women there, yet still was cool with getting me snacks as gifts. Sayonara, idiot.

‘She clarified that her original post had been about “one day” in her life, and explained why it felt like such a big deal that her husband hadn’t got her anything for Christmas.’

IT SHOULD NOT EVEN HAVE BEEN NECESSARY TO FUCKING EXPLAIN THIS, never mind add the above ‘disclaimer‘ into the article! Lord fucking preserve me but we aren’t allowed to get upset about ANYTHING, are we?

My Ex got me low effort "self made" gifts (things he was interested in, not I), gifts from the thrift store (the cheapest shit you can image), or tried me to manipulate in demanding nothing. He asked me on St. Valentyne's Day: "Soo...do you expect a gift or something?", with a really annoyed, grumpy voice. Of course I said no. He also got me the cheapest fucking flowers he could find on gas stations or some cheap ass grocery stores. But of course, he wished for the most expensive shit from me - and pickeme-me back then bought him that stuff to show him HoW mUcH i Luvh HiM. 🤡 He was a typical 50:50 scrote. I hate that I wasted 2 fucking years with this jerk.

Something similar saddened me this morning: https://www.reddit.com/r/TrueOffMyChest/comments/zx9ofs/my_mom_cheated_on_my_dad_and_i_get_why/?utm_source=share&utm_medium=ios_app&utm_name=iossmf

women also buy all the presents for their kids, nieces nephews, family friends, write out and send all the christmas cards, buy and cook the food, clean up and then they dont even get any presents. this was my aunt, she would do everything at christmas while her now ex husband would sit on his ass doing absolutely nothing.

Non-gift giving hubby would get divorce papers from me before New Year's Eve. This is SO unacceptable. He can literally order jewelry and other gifts online in less than 5 minutes and even have someone else wrap and write the greeting. This kind of blatant disrespect and cruelty cannot be tolerated.

My dad is the same thing, but he just gives cash as a gift. My sister and I like getting cash, but my mom hates it because it's low effort and she uses the money to pay towards the house.

Reminds me of this gem from SNL: https://m.youtube.com/watch?v=FOVCtUdaMCU