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The ongoing saga of Sophie and Joe’s divorce drama got me thinking about children, custody, prenups and leverage.
I wish their was a way to include child custody into prenups so that it could work out to benefit women. But I was doing some quick research, and I’m not sure for other states but I’m sure its similar for CA, courts do not recognize any decisions regarding child custody and child support. This is always left up to the courts since the courts will consider what is the “best interest in the child.”
But knowing how family courts are so disadvantages to women and their children, what other possibilities do women have to protect themselves and their children, if divorce ever needs to happen?
I know for many of use, children are not in the picture, nor will they be if we ever decide to get married. But sometimes circumstances change, etc, and women do end up having children. And I’m left wondering how can women respond when in many cased men will use the fight for custody/support only as a power play against the mother?
How can women in this situation win? How can she hold on to her children without going through scrote nonsense?
I also tried to look up some legal precedent regarding if women hold more power if they have a child through a sperm donor, but the legal arguments implies a “presumption of paternity” or that the child will still be considered the legal child of the husband. So, there’s that.
What your thoughts on this queens? What’s a strategy that elevates women? Is it for her to go solo on having a child (sperm donor), not get married, and having a great support network? (which is plausible as well).
In my basic understanding, a woman has a better chance of keeping custody of her children if she has money, assets, a career with a steady paycheck, and a place to live. These are all things that can be protected in a prenup and/or setting standards in a relationship. I plan to preserve my house and assets in a prenup. I will keep working and saving money in my individual accounts. So that if I ever marry, have children, and then divorce, I have the groundwork for a strong case to keep custody of my children. If a woman relinquishes her financial power, her home, or her career in marriage, that puts her at a disadvantage in a divorce.