Is it safer to appear openly radfem around people or is it better to conceal our FDS opinions and values?

I'm open about it but I pick and choose when and where (and to whom) I'm revealing it. It's better to be open because it gets a lot of shitty people, mostly men, to avoid you. They find out quick that you're not a mark for their manipulation. It also helps normalize radfem among women who still buy into the patriarchal, pick-me norms because they were raised in it and don't know any better. When you live your life by your beliefs you set an example, and other people do notice. Women will see it and think "I want that" as they slave away for their ungrateful, lazy husbands and the children they had with these men.

Your confidence and self-esteem will also go through the roof. Shitty men HATE that.

once I started being open and upfront or simply sharing redfem and FDS aligned posts in my IG stories, it weeded out the pickme “friends” I had.

You’ll find even being confident with high standards and wanting to always improve will still trigger people. Let the trash take itself out

I think it's better to be open. It weeds out the abusers quick and they show their true colors. Recently had a supposed male friend who claims he supports women see my narc abuse YT channel and instead of being supportive he's left some sarcastic comments thus showing he's probably a covert narc. They always tell on themselves! He even referred to himself as a creeper on my channel. They all hate rad fem cause it means less chance to use women. He also uses his female friends for free rides and when he asked me the third time I put my foot down and said no and he got annoyed hahaha. They wanna use us for our resources.

I am not secretive about it but I choose who I open up with and to what extent. Just a piece of advice; in order to vet people it's better to listen rather than state what you believe. Especially with men, if you openly identify as a radfem, some will just avoid you, but others will attack or manipulate. It's better to let them talk. Behave like a radfem and see how they react. Show, don't tell. That's enough to know what you need to know.

In general I am "open" about my beliefs because I live them. I do not go around and start conversations to try to convince or convert people, but if someone asks me for my advice, opinion or reasons why I do things a certain way in good faith I honestly and calmly tell them. How and to what extent depends on the social situation and our relationship.

You need to be careful around dates or men you are just getting to know, though. Don't give them the exact words they can use to manipulate you. Let THEM explain themselves to you before you say anything and block and delete without revealing you stance if they show any red flags.

I guess I'm in the minority here. I don't tell anyone- not even my closest friends, about FDS. I just don't feel like it's safe at the moment, and I wouldn't want to doxx myself. I find misogynistic men easy enough to repel- they're low-effort by nature. I don't believe in educating them.

I usually make it clear that I prefer to talk to other women, but I don't act hostile towards men. I never put up with disrespect towards women in order to appear "cool" and "laid back." However, I won't do anything that doesn't benefit me, and coming out as radfem is bad for my reputation.

I am loud and proud. I will get the wild man occasionally who challenges me and acts psycho, but me being loud and proud has crafted a good, strong circle of like minded friends who will back me up. I don’t have a LOT of friends, but the friends I do have are amazing, supportive, and share my values. When you’re starting it is scary and hard because most people will be aggressive and hostile to you, but it will also draw in people who agree with you. You just gotta give it time. Also, the more we bring radfem into the real world the easier it will be to discuss it.

It seems radical now, but more people talking and supporting radfem ideologies will only happen if we have real people behind em. And good chunks of older women agree with radfem ideologies, too. They just don’t know it’s radfem. Also, with scrotes becoming more bold as to openly call women females and demand crazy ass things in public, women def need to balance the two by pointing out actually healthy dynamics.

Interesting perspectives!

I've found it downright dangerous (even on a physical level) to expose myself as a radical feminist in the U.S. In polite places, I've received odd looks. In less polite places, I've received threats of violence. There may be the rare woman who quietly agrees with my viewpoints, but she is also constrained by social pressure to keep quiet.

I would say it's best to be judicious about when and where to express your "feminism", i.e., pick your battles. If no one is disrespecting you for a being a woman, keep quiet and go about your business. If someone is giving you a hard time based on your gender, and you're backed into a corner, fight back. Keep your tongue sharp and your mind strategic.

I think the block/delete attitude works here. I don’t announce my views unless someone is asking for advice/input or something like that on a relevant topic which is rare anyway. I feel like right now that’s like saying you’re in a political party thats opposite of what dominates your area. where I live that will get you in physical danger or will get at least maybe your car windows smashed.

my style is to avoid conversation with scrotes. for example it is a futile attempt if you try arguing with them on Reddit with the goal of changing their view on a topic-they will double down and the hate just puts you in danger.

at the same time, saying small things that may help women while also getting them to think-for example if a pick me is complaining about how a guy isn’t texting her back, why is he so inconsistent, her boyfriend cheated, she can’t get him to clean anything-I just will say “if he wanted to he would” and then she will keep complaining and I’ll shrug and to “that sucks, but you know if he wanted to he would and someone else would, I guarantee it” that seems to be taken the most kindly. I just tell women over and over they deserve better and if they get defensive then that’s a block and avoid them to me.

unfortunately I don’t know what to say to scrote men who say scrote things. so I just don’t bother wasting my time. sucks that women are the only ones who can stop the bad treatment by blocking/deleting/rejecting but there is not any way I can think of to change a scrotes bad behavior.

Mostly I just validate other women’s instincts that usually are FDS aligned. A lot of this just makes sense, and HV relationships will feel good. If a guys doing LV stuff , usually there is a voice that says ohhh this doesn’t feel good. Then main stream media is giving a pickme message. I just try to validate that voice that inner guidance, that it’s ok to feel that way!!!

Silence gets you no where. Speak up loudly and frequently.

I am open about it

I say be upfront with it when it comes up, but as with any opinions you have, be able to articulate your reasoning and defend it against scrutinization without feeling on par with a prey animal.

In a similar vein, “the people you surround yourself with are a reflection of yourself”. I’ve cut out friends who overall are far too complacent in most aspects of their lives because they don’t align with my constant drive for self improvement and learning and feminist values. It’s nothing personal. If you aren’t open about what you believe and value how will you ever find likeminded people?