I had a friend who became the mother of a daughter then a son. It’s crazy how this “feminist” woman can believe her son can do no wrong, while scapegoating her daughter. I think generally mothers of sons do not hold their sons accountable appropriately and expect less from them, hence the expression “boys will be boys”.
Definitely have been bullied and harassed by the mothers of my various stalkers/bullies throughout my life for no solid reason and I am pretty close to giving up on marriage altogether just to ensure I never have a MIL.
The worst one was the mother of one of my sister’s bf who looked me over and exclaimed that I had good genes and seemed to accept my sister dating her son because of seeing me.
I feel for them because no matter how well they try to raise their sons and even if all the men in the family are HV and good role models, the boys will still be exposed to patriarchal bullshit, porn and depravity way too early and there is not way to avoid it. You can only hope what you did had at least some effect and that they don't go down the rabbit hole too deeply and try to hold them accountable.
If I had a boy I'd absolutely be scared for him. Because no matter how hard I try to raise him to be a decent man there is only so much influence you have as a parent, especially once they go to school and into puberty.
I feel this so strongly but I’m scared to bring it up to boy moms in case they attack me for daring to imply their angel could ever grow up to be anything but the best man that has ever existed…..
There are plenty of mothers of daughters who still strongly prefer sons or externalize their misogyny on their daughters, so I don't think just because boymoms seem to universally suck (I haven't met a good one yet) girl-moms are necessarily better. I really want a daughter and would be devastated (to the point of aborting) if I had a son. It just seems like a different version of "not my nigel" with them.
I’m a mother to a son and I promised myself to raise him to be a good man and a HVM in the future to the best of my ability. I’m hoping my bond with him will teach him a lot and show him treatment women deserve but most of all I’m hoping that if I ended up marrying a HVM, I can show him what a healthy marriage looks like and what a HVM role model is like. Respectable men respect all women.
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I think I'm amazing.
I had a friend who became the mother of a daughter then a son. It’s crazy how this “feminist” woman can believe her son can do no wrong, while scapegoating her daughter. I think generally mothers of sons do not hold their sons accountable appropriately and expect less from them, hence the expression “boys will be boys”.
Terrifies me.
Definitely have been bullied and harassed by the mothers of my various stalkers/bullies throughout my life for no solid reason and I am pretty close to giving up on marriage altogether just to ensure I never have a MIL.
I feel for them because no matter how well they try to raise their sons and even if all the men in the family are HV and good role models, the boys will still be exposed to patriarchal bullshit, porn and depravity way too early and there is not way to avoid it. You can only hope what you did had at least some effect and that they don't go down the rabbit hole too deeply and try to hold them accountable.
If I had a boy I'd absolutely be scared for him. Because no matter how hard I try to raise him to be a decent man there is only so much influence you have as a parent, especially once they go to school and into puberty.
It’s the saddest thing that they’re such a part of the problem.
There are plenty of mothers of daughters who still strongly prefer sons or externalize their misogyny on their daughters, so I don't think just because boymoms seem to universally suck (I haven't met a good one yet) girl-moms are necessarily better. I really want a daughter and would be devastated (to the point of aborting) if I had a son. It just seems like a different version of "not my nigel" with them.
I’m a mother to a son and I promised myself to raise him to be a good man and a HVM in the future to the best of my ability. I’m hoping my bond with him will teach him a lot and show him treatment women deserve but most of all I’m hoping that if I ended up marrying a HVM, I can show him what a healthy marriage looks like and what a HVM role model is like. Respectable men respect all women.