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Her and I have been best friends since we were 10, we're almost 30 now. She met this absolute lover of a bf some years ago, before they even moved in together he was asking to borrow money from her. He's always been in debt, is not generous and never wants to spend a dime on her.
The main issue in theie relationship is his p*rn addiction. She told me about this one day over drinks and I felt so bad for her! She told me the following:
He follows random ig models and of girls on Instagram.
Watches porn before and after work in the bathroom
Can't get hard without porn and needs enhancement pills (he is late 20's)
The last time she called me after they had a huge fight I explicitly told her "friend, do not marry this guy, your life will be miserable" she even responded saying " I know you're right".
Fast forward to now, she is 100% marrying this loser this year and I feel she is going to regret this decision. I don't even know if I should say anything to her or just let her go forward with it.
Don’t say anything. Some people have to learn hard lessons on their own.
Unfortunately, some people only learn “the hard way” and have to go through the experiences themselves in order to “learn their lesson”. Her self-esteem must be really low since she’s even considering entertaining this scrote? 🤔. I’m not sure there’s anything you can do. If you tell her you disagree with her and think her bf/fiance is trash, she’s gonna resent you. On the other hand, coddling her and holding her hand by listening to her vent about her scrote is not gonna help anyone either. Maybe, it’s time to establish some boundaries? Like tell her that she knows your opinion about him and that she should not proceed with the marriage, but this is the last time you’ll listen to her vent. Tell her that you’ll be there for her should she ever decide to cut him off, but until then… Frankly, I don’t even see how the two of you are compatible as friends. Sure, you’ve known each other for decades, but don’t let the “sunken cost fallacy” drag you down with her.