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I feel so horrible cause two of my classmates who I was supposed to spend time with this week cancelled plans on me. Neither of them are messaging me either. I feel kinda stupid for thinking they cared about me and wanted to be my friend.
Honestly after being on FDS I find it really easy to get over romantic rejection. But idk what that do when some cool, smart woman doesn't think I'm interesting or worth being friends with :(. It literally makes me feel like shit about myself and I don't think any of the work I'm putting into trying to be more interesting is paying off.
Try to be thankful that they didn't string you along for 7 years as a friend then ghost you. It's better when the people who don't like you let you know right up front.
You apply the principles in the same way. Focus on yourself and fostering connections with higher value people who might become your friends. Be too busy to notice. Watch out for disrespect. Etc etc.
I had a friend do this in high school, and we ended up being best friends for a few years because she NEVER did it again, but I refused to talk to her or hang out until she spoke up and apologized. She had offered to come get me with her sister at 7pm, and by 8pm, I called and she was out with other girls. When I asked why she didn't come get me or text, she said "it's not like we're married." And I was just like, "wtf? YOU asked ME to come out, but if you're going to treat me like I'm not your friend, then I'm not going to BE your friend," and she hung up on me. We aren't friends now, but we were for about 7 years. She got married to a total dildo, who will start having sex with her while she's fucking sleeping. She prioritizes this rapist over EVERYONE, and it's really disappointing. My point here is that "how they treat you is how they VIEW you," and that absolutely applies to other women as well.
Yeah I wasted a lot of time and energy on flaky friends when I was younger only to find that these people were fair weather friends at best. Nowadays I don't tolerate flakiness at all. If someone flakes on me, I take that as a sign that they're not that into me and I move on. My life has become so much simpler and less stressful since I adopted this policy.
Girrrrrllll I’ve been there! You’re dealing with catty girls. It may seem sad right now, but trust me it all works out for the best; you’ll meet a friend/group that vibes with you.
I hate to break it to you, but it seems like they’re outing you in their group. They did this behind your back, and probably made plans with just them that day as well. How I would handle this situation is to just treat it with a “whatever attitude” and move on from them. On the day that you were supposed to hangout, take yourself out and forget about them.
In college, I befriended these three girls who were older students returning back to school and I could sense that they felt intellectually insecure. Anyways, once they befriended another girl who was also in the same position as them, they kicked me to the curb for a project. I was left to my own devices to find people to work with last minute. It all worked out for the best and I found a group missing a member. Our group’s project was a big hit! We got praised by our professor and the coordinator. After that, they tried to ask me if I wanted to hang out again, but I quietly declined since I knew they were mean girls.
don't worry about being friendless for a while. you need to first clean the room from the filth before setting the new proper mood. you're cleaning your life from LV people in order to open up to HV friends. that's normal and a transitional state. you'll have new, better friends soon. just be patient.
I understand. Friendship rejections are harder, because with men we can say, “he just wanted sex” but this feels more personal, like your character isn’t good enough.
I put work into my friendships, but it’s 90% me, and I accept that. I take it as it is and if anyone gets too lazy or disrespectful, I have enough of a group, that I can cut them off.
You're so hard on yourself. I'm sorry if this is hard to hear, but other people are not better or more worthy than you. Other people being unable to follow through is not a reflection of you. It sounds like you hold other people in very high regard, more than they deserve from you. Knock people off the pedestals you put them on in your head. I'm sure these are interesting people, but they're human all the same. You are not some lesser or inferior life form. But I hope you can forgive yourself for continually seeing the best in other people and having trouble using that kind of dedication for yourself.