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Ladies, I don't know what is polite here.
My friend told me not to buy plates/dishes for my new place because she wanted to get me some as a housewarming gift, but she hadn't bought them yet.
I said, awesome, thank you. And I shared with her the link to the specific dish set that I wanted. She agreed it suited me well. I lived off paper plates for a couple of weeks because she really wanted to gift me a dish set and didn't get around to it quickly.
The she finally gifts me a dish set, and I don't like them at all. They're very basic and plain, not the ones I wanted. I'm annoyed, I was prepared to buy the ones I wanted myself, waited for her, and she gave me these. I don't want them.
If this were a gift from a man in the same scenario, I would resell them without hesitation. But she will come over and notice the plates are gone and have been replaced, and somehow that feels rude to do since she's a female friend.
Help.
You shouldn't worry about her feelings. I mean, when she gifted something different than you asked for, she didn't care about your feelings either. You don't have to keep her gift if you don't want to.
Use stuff that will make you happy. If she ask why you don't use her gift, just say "I prefer this set 😇" and mention nothing about hers.