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Recently, I made an acquaintance with this girl whom I thought shared very similar values. She seems very FDS-oriented and a 'girl's girl', but, she keeps bringing other friends to our outings.
We usually hang out in a small circle of friends (me, her, and another friend), yet 99% of the time she brings other friends to hang out with us (without even asking). I don't mind her bringing her female friends, but she brings her male "friends" as well 🤦🏽♀️.
I've already expressed my concerns to her and she apologized and had some valid excuses too (e.g. "He's my really good friend who's visiting from out of town and this was the only time our schedules lined up") so I thought she won't do it again, but, we're supposed to hang out again this weekend, and she just informed us she's bringing 2-3 of her other girl-friends and some scrote 😭.
I'm honestly so disappointed because like I've said - I thought she was a 'girl's girl', but she seems to be placing so much focus on male attention and validation I think she might be a pick-me 🤔.
What do you galls say? How would you handle the situation? Should I bring my concerns to her again or just cancel the outing altogether? Am I overreacting? Thanks for your advice/help~
I’d still consider her a good friend, because she informed you there were people coming as well.
She probably likes groups gatherings instead of intimate one on one kind of things.
The proper thing to say is, “Hey something came up, and I won’t be able to attend. Have fun without me. Lmk when you’re planning another another night out.” The next time she invites you, just tell her you’re only interested in having a girl’s only night or something with just you and her.
My personal philosophy is that, if you know you’re not going to have a good time, don’t show up, and cancel. If this is group thing, it won’t be an issue.