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Hi. I am learning how to handle situations and people in life.
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One day in September or October 2022 I went to my medical marijuana dispensary. A woman working there at the counter who I went to high school with and had mutual friends with, recognized me. She and I started to make small talk, "wow it has been so long since we last saw each other, remember this teacher, what is up nowadays," and stuff like that. She then asked to exchange numbers. To be clear, She and I did not talk in high school. We smoked once together with our mutual friends and we were in one HS class together but we did not talk/sit next to each other. At that moment, I cautiously exchanged my number with her. I just went with the moment. Perhaps it can be a new girlfriend?
We started to text every day with one nice paragraph replying to the other's paragraph. We were sharing what life was like after high school graduation to what we are doing now in life. Opening up and all of that. I have asked her if she would like to go hang out a few times now. I suggested a few places of all different "types" and I asked her what she would like to do. She told me that she needs to go somewhere she can smoke weed too. I suggested places that are marijuana friendly as well. She doesn't take up on the offer, or even suggests her own place yet still texts me? It's like a pen pal. She mentioned in one of our conversations that she is looking for healthy woman friendships that are like-minded..I believe I did what I can on my part to make a new friend.
We would go from texting every other day, to once a week, to once a month, now once every two months. She just texted me back now, I haven't even read it. The words I do see are "sorry I feel like an ass for texting back late...." I didn't click to read the full message.
I don't have any close woman friends currently. I used to hang out with a really bad crew and then hung out by myself for a while. I am re-learning how to develop and vet female friendships.
If this was a man, oh yes, he would be blocked and deleted. But it's a potential female friendship. What would you do in this situation? Do I give up on her? Stop texting her? Block and delete? Say something?
Thank you for reading and helping me ladies.
A flake is a flake, man or woman. Don't waste your effort on those who won't meet you at your level. Block and delete and move on.
Drop her, she doesn't want to be friends or she would make plans to see you.
Tbh, stoners don't make good friends. If she's telling you she can only hang out with you if she can get high, then that's a flag for an addict (it would be the same kind of flag if she drank excessively too). I meet more women than men who are responsible w recreational drugs (it's all recreational where I'm at) but you won't find them if you entertain the addicts who just want to throw and go to stoner parties.
Don’t waste your time on her… she is only replying when she feels like it. When she needs contact. This is going to transfer into every aspect into yours relationship. She is in it for herself.
Stop responding. I have had a lot of people do this to me btw….they initiate a hangout but never actually want to hang out.
they are satisfied with texting when they are bored or to just keep in touch.
You want more. Don’t ask for it. Just attempt to put yourself around more people who offer it.