I saw a tweet last night that being a father spending time with their kid is exhausting their kid of energy by ranting and "mansplaining" a topic that the kid asked the parent about. The kid asking the father a "why" question. I remember my father used to rant for hours endlessly in unproductive ra

I fall into this pattern constantly, I will meet a woman who seems nice, we usually don’t have too much in common. Then we will start hanging out 1x to 4x times a week, mostly one on one. They always have Much much more support, family and resources than me. I get very attached, desperate to have a

Recently, I made an acquaintance with this girl whom I thought shared very similar values. She seems very FDS-oriented and a 'girl's girl', but, she keeps bringing other friends to our outings. We usually hang out in a small circle of friends (me, her, and another friend), yet 99% of the time she

I moved out to another place about 6 years ago and I had to start my life from zero. Because all that my mental health hasn’t been ok. I have been going to therapy and taking antidepressants. My therapist always tells me the importance of being vulnerable and creating new connections to live the bes

Incoming rant: First of all thank you FDS for your kind words and advice about this girl. I made a post a few days ago, about this girl and her family. We made plans today and I know she’d flake due to her lack of response. The last surprise hangout was spent with me being her personal babysitter

A while back, I made this post about this friend using me for her birthday with the babysitting, and decorating the venue. Obviously, I distanced myself and she noticed and asked me why I don’t hangout with her anymore. I told her that I don’t want to bother her because she has two kids, and it’s to

Incoming rant I made a post about this flaky friend a while back. In short, I was really hurt when she offered to train with me for a marathon, but then kept making up a string of excuses and ultimately completed the marathon herself and posted it on social media. She tried to remedy the situation

I’m in my thirties and I have trouble making friends. Over the past few years, I have had to really look at who I want in my life. I already have a small group, and it’s only getting smaller. I’m down to two people who treat me badly. My mother thinks both girls are not good for me and I should not

The three colours of friendship Just saw this video and thought it might be insightful for my fellow FDSers. I've been struggling with friendships for a while now. Some people have left me, I have left others. I don't really mnd being alone most of the time, but there are occasions when I miss ha

Hi all, Thank you for helping me a few days ago with my decision to block and delete that friend. She reached out to me because she had been holding resentment against me for a year (two weeks after we fought) and I told her what I honestly felt; that it wasn't working for me, i felt it was onesided

I know FDS has a pretty hard "don't have male friends stance" and fwiw I agree with it for the most part, but I'm so glad that I have a loophole in the form of my male cousins. In a world where most men kind of suck, and Indian men are currently gaining a global reputation for being viciously sex

So I'm having this situation for the first time, honestly I've never really dealt with it before and I find it so weird. Basically there's this woman who actively dislikes me which is fine, but what's weird is that she finds passive aggressive ways to let me know. We barely know each other, there i

As my title stated, I'm what holds my small family together (mom, younger sister, and dog). I don’t even know where to start with unfurling myself from the mess that is my family. My mother has no money saved for retirement (spent it on a house that she can barely afford the mortgage). Debts up to 2

I'm 22 and I realized something recently. This post is not intended to sound doompilled. If you're in your early 20s and you're struggling to make friends, the problem is not you and you shouldn't view it as some personal failure. People are just really busy with their lives. They're trying to focus

As much as I love the internet, I'd love to have more in person friends. I'm in Dublin, Ireland. Obviously, we won't meet up straight away and will spend some time vetting each other before we do. Also, I am married and not in the dating scene but would love to meet fds, feminist aligned women to se

Aka the religious version of “Why aren’t you smiling sweetheart?” Has anyone else grappled with or watched someone close to them live this way? Women are told this in a million different ways by a million different men and even by other women. They should smile, they have to embrace joy, god has pro

So, I've already made a post about it here, but I'd like to share an update and ask for your opinions/advice again. So today, me and my friend finally had a discussion about me not being comfortable when she invites other people to our outings, esp. men, without telling me in advance. We kind of ma

So my family is in a tiny apartment. My mom took it over from grandparents because they had to go a nursing home. She sleeps on the couch and I do too when I come to visit from college out of state, while my younger siblings are in the rooms. The apparent is just gross. A lot of things need to be re

I met someone recently who had high value traits. A group actually. We spent some time together. There was some concerns I had in my gut... amber bells/flags... so I tread carefully... (or maybe they were red flags that I 'tolerated' (cringe)). Anyway... it all went sour recently. I'm grateful fo

My dad got upset that I wanted leftovers because apparently the type of food we had last night doesn't heat up well and can result in food poisoning. I told him I was having the leftovers and he got upset and said you “can’t reheat it” even tho my mom was totally chill with me having it today. I’v

My closest friend of 10+ years: FDS aligned, feminist and loves psychology, self improvement, etc. She has an avoidant attachment due to family trauma but she’s working on it and overall great company when we meet up. We had our one and only fight several years ago. That time, we were out together

So there was a time in my life where I was going to a lot of group hangouts and parties but I still felt really lonely. I couldn't understand why, and then I realized it was probably because I prefer one-on-one hangouts. So when I would just get coffee or lunch with one other person or I would have

Hi Queens, I’m seeking advice on what to do with this friendship dilemma. One of my closest friends (of 10+ years) aligns with FDS principles but ever since our college days I noticed we clash in our values on spontaneity vs planning. About Me: busy woman working as a lawyer and have many family c

I live alone and don't have a car. Sometimes I need a man to do something like help me with carrying something heavy or doing something at home. I usually call my brother but he doesn't have a car either (we chose not to and sometimes we rent one). I have some colleagues at work who became my friend

Dear Queens, Could use some advice or consolation. Here is the sitch I have this friend I have been friends with about 5 years, I know her through a friend of a friend (who I am still very close with but she lives in another country) Over the last two years this friend Jade and I have gotten ver

Ladies, I don't know what is polite here. My friend told me not to buy plates/dishes for my new place because she wanted to get me some as a housewarming gift, but she hadn't bought them yet. I said, awesome, thank you. And I shared with her the link to the specific dish set that I wanted. She a

Need to rant and hopefully get advice on what I should do. So, me and my sister grew up close and we were in each others lives almost everyday during our early parenting years as single parents. Until she found her now husband over 10yrs ago. Slowly I was faded out and I was lucky if I saw her onc

When I was dating my ex he gave me gifts and I was telling my mom about it and our date we went on. She replied to me in an annoyed voice "And?! What did you give him? Did you at least paid for the food?" Im just thinking tf? Is she jealous that I don't do 50/50 and he pays for every date. I feel

I feel so horrible cause two of my classmates who I was supposed to spend time with this week cancelled plans on me. Neither of them are messaging me either. I feel kinda stupid for thinking they cared about me and wanted to be my friend. Honestly after being on FDS I find it really easy to get ove

As the holidays are just around the corner, boys and men should be helping with the cooking and cleaning. Women should not be the only ones doing everything. I've noticed this at my mom's friends house, aside from her husband who does actually cook. Luckily, the younger generation has been helping o