I can't recommend this enough, this applies to men you're just befriending as well.
"Typecasting"
I have an example that might help. I had a male "friend" who would make wild, out of touch accusations/assumptions about me that were clearly from a jealous, toxic place.
I get along with most people well and keep it cordial at work. I'll go to the occasional bday party, but that's about it. Few coworkers have my number and no heavy texting or hanging out. I told my jealous male "friend" about the bday party i went to(an entire year ago), and said "hi" to a coworker I saw, who said "hello" to me first.
So because I went to a party a whole ass year ago(showed up early, left early), and politely responded to someone who spoke to me first(basic courtesy), he goes:
"You're like my brother, he says he's a loner and has social anxiety, but he parties and goes to concerts, bars and raves every weekend, and is always hooking up with women."
I just said "... Ookay?..."
Immediately regretted ever speaking to this guy. He was a brand new friend too.
So I'm a lying whore because I dared speak when spoken to, to another male. The audacity of me! It clearly triggered him, and it shouldn't have, for any sane man.
I think I witnessed an abusive male Mentally Spiral (Grasping at straws to justify abuse, sometimes completely making shit up in their heads) Like how does basic politeness trigger one so much?
"She RESPONDED to somebody, REE! Whore! She secretly parties and fucks every weekend!"
He should've kept that thought to himself. Still not sure what his goal was. Did he think I would say "No No really, I'm a loner, I'll prove it to you by being rude to people, and Only talking to You, from now on." OR "Haha, you caught me! I'm totally a drunk whore. Here, let me show you my secret drunk whore side." 🙄
Either way l was disgusted lol
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Feb 03, 2023
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Men think I’m bad if I message/have any male acquaintances. Like no mate
First of all CONGRATULATIONS about the engagement and the good health insurance!!
I have had MECFS for 10 years & the things that help me the most are low dose naltrexone in the morning, CBD RSO at night (from a dispensary, not hemp CBD but maybe the hemp will work for you) and a light therapy lamp in the afternoon seems to help me be upright longer in the evening.
I am so so sorry this has happened to you, don’t push yourself or you can make it worse. ❤️
Hope you feel better Lilith ❤ super green flag that he's compassionate while you're sick. Wish you all the best and congratulations ❤
This episode is so good, thank you
"If he ignores your No, run."
I can't recommend this enough, this applies to men you're just befriending as well.
"Typecasting"
I have an example that might help. I had a male "friend" who would make wild, out of touch accusations/assumptions about me that were clearly from a jealous, toxic place.
I get along with most people well and keep it cordial at work. I'll go to the occasional bday party, but that's about it. Few coworkers have my number and no heavy texting or hanging out. I told my jealous male "friend" about the bday party i went to(an entire year ago), and said "hi" to a coworker I saw, who said "hello" to me first.
So because I went to a party a whole ass year ago(showed up early, left early), and politely responded to someone who spoke to me first(basic courtesy), he goes:
"You're like my brother, he says he's a loner and has social anxiety, but he parties and goes to concerts, bars and raves every weekend, and is always hooking up with women."
I just said "... Ookay?..."
Immediately regretted ever speaking to this guy. He was a brand new friend too.
So I'm a lying whore because I dared speak when spoken to, to another male. The audacity of me! It clearly triggered him, and it shouldn't have, for any sane man.
Best wishes Lilith!! Your engagement story makes me feel inspired to keep up with FDS guidelines!!
“FDS works!!! Always look at the material benefits of marriage, ladies!!!” 💍❤️🔥
💖All the best to you ((((Lilith)))))!!!!💖
Love you Lilith!!! Congrats 💕
Wishing you health and recovery Lilith <3 And every happiness for the future!
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First of all CONGRATULATIONS about the engagement and the good health insurance!!
I have had MECFS for 10 years & the things that help me the most are low dose naltrexone in the morning, CBD RSO at night (from a dispensary, not hemp CBD but maybe the hemp will work for you) and a light therapy lamp in the afternoon seems to help me be upright longer in the evening.
I am so so sorry this has happened to you, don’t push yourself or you can make it worse. ❤️
Same here
Glad to hear of Lilith’s engagement 😁 shame she isn’t well but I would happily be on the podcast. I wonder where it’s filmed? (UK, USA?)