I love Natalie Clarice, but her most recent video had me questioning her message. She mentions multiple times that most men are cheaters, but that they just need to essentially grow out of that phase before you date them. 🙄 Personally, I think if I found out that a man I was dating had cheated on a partner in the past, that would be a hard b&d for me. Even if he was treating me well or there were no other red flags, the fact that a man had the capability to cheat would show me he has poor judgment, low self esteem, or general disregard for forming meaningful relationships in a respectful manner. I wouldn't be able to trust him anymore. Thoughts?
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Here is what I've noticed throughout my life: "once a cheater, always a cheater" holds true for men but not for women.
Sounds like another woman trying to coddle men. There are plenty of men who are faithful and don’t cheat. Cheating isn’t some accident that’s unavoidable, it’s a purposeful choice. Saying it’s something they have to grow out of is just like saying “Oh well, that’s boys being boys! 😜 “ Let’s stop infantilizing men and treat them like adults.
It's not "a phase", cheating is abuse and it's born of entitlement. Saying it's a phase downplays that fact and is just another way of saying "boys will be boys." It's pickme bullshit.
If all men are cheaters, then all women are better off without them. Men might be determined to be degenerates, but that's no reason for is to lower our standards.
I definitely agree. Something else I’ll say- which I usually get blowback for- is that most men are cheaters.
They tell us ourselves they’re “dESiGnEd tO sPrEaD tHeiR sEeD”. Combined with the idea that most of them think we “expire at 30” it’s their indirect way of justifying cheating.
Same. Once I see the dark side, the light dims.
Ewwww....
Had an older guy try to keep me by saying he will never cheat. A. He's too tired to, so where was that when he was young, and B. No duh, cuz I'd leave.
The type of guys who "wouldn't cheat" (already did) are usually so awful you'd want time away anyway.
Plus, if they EVER bring that up, red flag. Like a guy saying he won't murder you. Like yeah, I'm not a psychopath, so I wasn't THINKING about infidelity on either end.