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I think she makes some very interesting and FDS-aligned points, but at the same time she seems to blame women for male behaviour (news flash) and use air quotes to talk about HVM...........
Anyway, I particularly disagree with a specific thing she said about "pussy power". She says women have great power in the dating dynamics because men's heads revolve around sex, so if we withdraw sex from them (meaning waiting for sex) we have the control over this dynamic. I know that waiting to have sex and avoiding hook up culture is necessary to find a HVM, but I don't think it means we've got the power. We have desires, it is difficult to be with someone and not have sex when both parties want it. However we must ignore this desire because we know that men lose respect for us as soon as we have sex with them. So no, we don't have "pussy power" because we withdraw from our own desires in order to avoid being treated like shit by men. I agree that we should wait for sex. I just don't see it as women being in control.
She defends going 50/50 if that's what works for your relationship (which takes me to the conclusion that she thinks men paying for everything is also okay if it works for your relationship). She criticizes women who expect young men to be providers because that's something very unlikely since young people usually aren't yet settled in their career.
One of the things I agree with is mindless scrolling and the feeling that there's always someone better. So why settle for this person I kinda like if I can potentially find someone better in a swipe? And there's also the part about not being able to be youself because there are so many rules to keep a guy, attract the right man, etc. That made me think aboout FDS. We have many rules with the objective to keep us safe from and help us find true love focusing on our benefit, but I've got to say it feels quite suffocating at times (although we know this is not FDS's fault...)
There is a lot to unpack in this video and I would like to know your thoughts about it 😶
Yeah the pussy power thing is overrated... If a man judges you for having sex, he is exactly the type of man to cheat on you later or be horrible in bed.
Another way to blame women for men's poor choices and control women's sexuality.
Of course it's good to wait for sex as it allows the man to unfold. Men should not be judging women on their choice to have sex with him though.
The Pussy power thing makes me wonder if she read "the power of the pussy" book that is on the FDS handbook reading list. There is a lot of ways women can try to have more power in the dynamic (the book "why men love bitches" goes over a lot of them), withholding sex is not really one of them, that's more about protecting ourselves and seeing if the man sticks around and respects those boundaries.
And never any excuse to go 50-50.
Women shouldn't be blamed for dusties but If you know from what mold he comes from such as he cheated on his previous partner, he went to jail, he was a juvie, he has a drinking problem ect.
then you are in the wrong for choosing that. You can't choose trash and then complain when trash starts to stink. Ask yourself this do you want your daughter to date a man like that? Do if you could be a child again do you want that man to be your father?
You wouldn't drink a bottle of bleach disguised as a soda can if you know bleach is in there, you wouldn't step on glass if you know there are glass shards in front of you so why be so blind towards men? You need to be vigilant and learn from your mistakes instead of doing it again.
Anyone who defends 50/50 is an idiot because 50/50 never benefits women. Name one man who does 50/50 in the child rearing and household.. So far I haven't met them. If men aren't established in their careers yet then they shouldn't date or have babies.
When you look at animals in the wild do the bucks who are unable to defeat the stronger buck who is more genetically blessed gets a free pass to mate with the female? No.
You're smarter than an animal, don't settle for men who aren't the best of the best. Or are unable to defend and provide. Their incompetence is not your problem so don't settle for it.
Her first point is about chasing completely unrealistic income as a primary way to measure HVM. If a woman of her temperament does this, it locks her into a very high probability of asymmetric relationships where she will repeatedly get played and cheated on. That asymmetry is where she likes him, but he just wants to use her for sex and not much else.
Using monetary gifts as the sole measure versus give-and-take communication quality as a measure. Most do not know how to pick; that is what a HVM is for them. If you did know, you would not have this problem. So unfortunately, it’s a trial-and-error process, with error being the norm. When you find someone, you have super-high-quality communication with them. At best, this is 1 out of 20 to 30.
When you eventually get this right, a date could be a trip to the dump; really, it can be anything. It is the real person with real close give and take resonance. Because it is not based on shiny gifts, fake Instagram, or other superficial horseshit displays of wealth, which are commonly used to play on a woman’s vice, greed.
If you're emotionally manipulative, something is wrong. Being honest and telling the truth is better. Go to environments you would never normally go to if nothing is working, which is extremely hard to actually do.
Now for a woman who has a temperament specifically like the Youtuber presented. Here is a hack. Look for guys who are founders of some kind of business. About 1 out of 3 will be ideal for her. It will be very unglamorous, something of which you would never think. Like selling rags (linens). I know someone doing just this, locking in government contracts for hospitals, prisons, and so on. Does he make good money? Yes, he does. He is taken.