i have nothing against coffee dates (as long as they are in a nice place, with good coffee). sue me.
"but it's an easy way to vet" - might be for you, but not for me. if a guy thinks i'm a LVW for agreeing to a coffee date, he will show it more easily. he'll be more comfortable to be the scrote he is, which makes vetting easier. if he knows he needs to put up an act to convince me he is HV, dinner date + paying for everything will be his number one tactic.
"but it means he is cheap and wants to go out with many women" - or maybe he likes coffee, like me. and if he chooses a nice place with good quality coffee, it's not going to be cheap. plus, what if i only have time to see someone early in the morning or in the afternoon? i don't want to have lunch at 8am, nor dinner at 4pm. now, i don't know if by "coffee" FDSers mean literally just plain coffee - that's lame. when i hear "coffee", i think about a variety of beverages which have coffee, like frapuccinos, capuccinos, expressos, etc. and there's usually things to eat. i really like "coffee food", such as cakes and muffins. maybe it's a cultural thing, i don't know.
to me, upgrading dates is more important. he might start with coffee, but he's going to have to evolve. there's nothing more disappointing than starting well only to have things go downhill with time, which is what happens to most relationships.
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i have nothing against coffee dates (as long as they are in a nice place, with good coffee). sue me.
"but it's an easy way to vet" - might be for you, but not for me. if a guy thinks i'm a LVW for agreeing to a coffee date, he will show it more easily. he'll be more comfortable to be the scrote he is, which makes vetting easier. if he knows he needs to put up an act to convince me he is HV, dinner date + paying for everything will be his number one tactic.
"but it means he is cheap and wants to go out with many women" - or maybe he likes coffee, like me. and if he chooses a nice place with good quality coffee, it's not going to be cheap. plus, what if i only have time to see someone early in the morning or in the afternoon? i don't want to have lunch at 8am, nor dinner at 4pm. now, i don't know if by "coffee" FDSers mean literally just plain coffee - that's lame. when i hear "coffee", i think about a variety of beverages which have coffee, like frapuccinos, capuccinos, expressos, etc. and there's usually things to eat. i really like "coffee food", such as cakes and muffins. maybe it's a cultural thing, i don't know.
to me, upgrading dates is more important. he might start with coffee, but he's going to have to evolve. there's nothing more disappointing than starting well only to have things go downhill with time, which is what happens to most relationships.