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I’m tired of articles where pickeme’s ask how they can politely decline a coffee/walk/chill dates.
You don’t owe men anything, not even a hi back. When men offer you something and you’re not interested then “No thanks“ or a simple no is more than enough. Stop saying that you don’t want to date because of this and that reason or simply because you feel that you deserve to be wined and dined, or you rather focus on your career. When you explain yourself men will see it as a challenge to change your mind.
With the answer No you give them no further option than leaving it alone. When they ask why say “ Because I said no”
”That’s why” “Because I said so” are counter arguments they hate the most. If it doesn’t work the first time then repeat like a broken record until they get the hint that Your no literally means no.
Its so funny how men claim it’s ok to decline a date offer as long as you are polite. No, you can respond to that the way you want to, you can even ghost them If you have no desire to date him, just cut the incompetent men out instead of catering to their fragile ego like they are children.
Because men will not be polite to you when they pump and dump. When they replace you, or you don’t fit their beauty standards. So why is it so unfair to tell a dude no?
An explanation combined with politeness is only acceptable if you did something wrong. Saying no to a man’s advantages or predatory behaviour is never wrong.
I've just started blanking them with an annoyed look when approached in person and got flack from other guys about it when they've observed this. I guess scrotes stick with scrotes because they can all too easily imagine that being them. Just say NO... unless you're scared--in that case, be noncomittal and find a way to extricate yourself quickly.
If I’m not in the mood to interact out in public and not looking in their direction, hard oblivious blanking occurs. No power moves: no man is allowed to grab my attention when I’m unwilling to give it. He can read the room or deal with being ignored and I don’t GAF.
Can say from experience men will be extremely rude to you even if you give them everything they want.
This is the absolute truth.
I'm guilty of "explanations", just because I wished men had the same basic good relationship manners with me. But they don't, and it doesn't work, period. So I'm done.
"Because men will not be polite to you when they pump and dump. When they replace you, or you don’t fit their beauty standards. So why is it so unfair to tell a dude no? " THIS THIS THIS I'm like a broken record telling my friends to stop projecting their morality and politeness onto men, because most men have none. Most men treat women unbelievably rudely and truly deeply believe they are entitled to do so.
Word! That being said, I think that we should put our safety first and sometimes lying to them and walking away is better than being authentic and risking our safety (in a one-off situation, at least)
Yes! Had a guy say ‘ you must not be open to meeting anyone in person’ when I turned down his offer for ‘coffee or tea?’ I ignored his response and later that week went out with a man who took me to a gorgeous wine bar. I got to get dressed up, feel beautiful, and receive romance! There is absolutely nothing romantic about Starbucks and yoga pants lol