You don't have to date someone you're not attracted to.

I don't want this post to sound emotional or overdramatic, but I'll say it: There are life ruining consequences if you give a man you aren't physically attracted to a chance. I'm serious.

My mother and my father are still married. I don't think they ever truly found each other sexually attractive in the 33+ years they've been together. They were born and raised in a time and in families who were very conservative and religious, so to place any importance on "sexual attraction" when it comes to finding a marriage partner was forbidden and looked down upon. When the first high of getting married goes away, when the wedding and the honeymoon and the excitement of the children being born and growing up as cute children and buying the first beautiful house(s) goes away, what's left are the two people within the marriage.. for better or worse.

My mother finally found her voice after all these years these days and admitted to my sister and I that, if she could turn back time and have a second chance at life, she wouldn't have picked our father. He was and still is a very intelligent man, but he's very very average looking. To my mother, he looks like a rat. It's been decades, and no, his looks never grew on her. What really hurts me the most was realizing that the facial features I own, the little quirks I have in my personality, any sort of hints of my father's DNA in me.. probably disgust her, deep down. I look perfectly fine as a woman, mind you. But maybe my eyes or my smile or anything of that sort probably reminds her of dad, and she can't bring herself to find me, her daughter, to be seen as beautiful. I can probably count on just one hand on how many times she's said I am a beautiful woman; she was would always coo at other mothers' daughters, instead.

If you give that so called ugly scrote a chance, you will ruin your children's life as well as your own. People would act stunned, baffled, or even slighted at me not finding myself attractive most days. But if the person who literally gave you life doesn't think you look good, of course you will be heavily affected by it. I have sought therapy and will continue to work this part about me, but please let this be a warning to all of you if you ever find yourself wondering if you should give an average looking scrote a chance. You shouldn't.

what are we left with after we’ve turned all the ugly troll scrotes away???

an FDS queen party. 👑

adorable cats and beautiful gardens, massage therapy and whatever the hell else we value and desire.

gtfo, Nudge.

I always hear that I need to go for the bare minimum so I say okay my bare minimum is hygienic and neat towards his appearance and house. No mental illness/diseases no learning disabilities, or physical problems. No debts, no criminal records, no drug/alcohol addiction, no video gamer unless he plays a game with younger relatives on a visit, disciplined, not tardy, good table manners, and act and function like an adult in a household not a big child who does nothing.

Guess what? That’s not the bare minimum according to scrotes but the Max.

Besides there should be a rabid feminist sub on Reddit to spread the word. I love seeing scrotes angry.

Unattractive men are NOT going to be thankful you are with them. You are perceived as undesirable yourself for dating an undesirable men (why would you do it otherwise?). They are going to feel emboldened and will want to pursue women he perceives as more desirable.

This whole "unlearn your type!" rhetoric is too much like TRA propaganda for me because this is the argument they use to justify harassing anyone who doesn't want to date trans people. We all know that we shouldn't look for butterflies or a spark first and foremost, but we shouldn't be actively repulsed, either. Women are allowed to want to feel chemistry and sexual desire.

Dating ugly men leads to sexual trauma. I still feel visceral disgust at the trolls that have coerced me into physical intimacy. And anger that because “he’s nice”, I’m shallow for wanting to get visually turned on by my partner. Ugly men are the biggest feminist issue not talked about.

One of the biggest reasons women do not have orgasms is because they are not attracted to their partners. And because hot men are rare, they can be lazy lovers.

The only reason to date a man you are not attracted to is if he is an amazing provider and you are willing to have a dead bedroom. This is not the life for FDSers.

I feel resentment when I think of men that I have hooked up with that I wasn’t sexually attracted to feeling like something was wrong with me because the attraction NEVER ”arrived“ for me.

Also, good looking men have been the least likely to manipulate me for sex. They have options so if I turn them down they just move on vs attempting to abuse me and take me down a notch.

That dating coach lady just entirely blew over the phrase "looks wise" after "my type".

Like her advice is slightly better if "type" was referring to "men who play guitar" or something.

She's also reading too much into "my type" - that woman was probably just trying to think of a nicer way to say "the way he looks makes my vagina shrivel up".

OkC matched me with a nice guy, who said all the right things, we had similar (rare) interests, sweet and all but ultimately despite being only 32 he looked like a rough 45 and I just didn't find him attractive so I politely let him know I didn't see a future. Attraction is important for both sides; marrying someone you don't find attractive means you prevent them from finding someone who DOES find them attractive.

I hate how women are expected to "give men a chance" but men are not expected to do the same for women.

Men be out here with receding hairlines and potbellies and mistreating cute women because they aren't Instagram models. Instagram models wouldn't touch him with a ten foot pole.

Unless you're a lesbian and the person you're not attracted to has a penis. Sigh

That last lady is a pick me. I made a post on her a while back 🤣 she hates women having height standards