"You deserve everything good" as the mantra that helped me level up

Something in me changed for the better when I started imagining friends and family telling me "you deserve everything" inside my head every day. It's seriously doing wonders for me in many aspects of my life, especially as someone who was always overworking and really doesn't enjoy cleaning or decluttering.

And then one day I just kept imagining those words inside my mind "you deserve everything good" and I looked around me. Suddenly, I was like "yeah I deserve to have a good home made meal" so I made myself a really nice breakfast. Then it became me thinking that okay, I deserve to have a nice clean kitchen now and I found myself cleaning up, happily.

And then it became well i deserve to have a good day, let me put on some coffee and go get showered and dressed. And I did. I found myself feeling more confident and much happier as I sat down to begin my work.

A few days later I had a good networking opportunity just pop up. Old me would have been doubtful and questioned how much it was worth attending. But then imagined the voice telling me "you deserve everything good" and i imagined myself from an outsiders perspective-a hardworking, smart, funny, and successful woman who was brave enough to beat the cycle and start healing - and yeah, i would tell her to go because she deserves to have that opportunity. And I found myself excitedly going and making meaningful connections.

Whatever you're struggling with, it seems that this mantra has helped me find motivation as well as more confidence.

Another thing I started doing was writing myself a list of positive traits. For example you can mention your achievements, goals, resourcefulness, personality aspects, and even note the physical traits you appreciate about yourself. You can note that you're a good friend or sister, and note the hobbies that you're making progress at. Maybe note that time you tried something new, because that takes courage, even if it ended up not working out. Instead or feeling sad about exes, you can say that you're your own hero for leaving when it got bad (or if he dumped you, you can look at the takeaway lessons). You're unlikely to feel insecure if someone does ask a "what do you bring to the table" at work, on a project, or even if that dreaded questions pops up on a date when you thought you vetted the guy. The facts are there: you are the table. You're competent and skilled and you know your worth.

You deserve to have a happy and nice life, in a clean and organized home. You deserve to have useful things you can cherish. You deserve to also be financially literate and stable. You deserve meaningful platonic relationships (friends, coworkers, family) as well as romantic ones. Take a step back and remind yourself yeah, you deserve it, and it's no longer a chore.