I can’t say one way or another if that is true, wouldn’t be surprised if it is, but there are many many risks to child birth that I think are massively understated to women. I know I was uninformed about a lot of things surrounding pregnancy and child birth.
everyone told me how great I was gonna feel being pregnant and how i was gonna be “glowing” when I felt like crap the whole time and had such bad heartburn that I could barely eat and was throwing up acid most nights. And I just felt angry a lot, when I’d had a fairly even temperament before.
and you can literally tear yourself a new asshole(ask me how I know!) and not be able to sit properly for weeks. And post partum the constipation for the first few days is painful. Didn’t even get to post partum depression yet-that is the worst part And you don’t know when it will end!
not saying I regret it at all or trying to actively deter women from considering having children. But I do think that even women sort of gaslight other women into thinking they should expect a rosy, pleasant magical experience when it comes with lots of risks to physical and mental health (not to mention there is still a pretty high death rate for women giving birth in even more developed countries) I really wish someone had given me the truth. instead I was made to feel guilty for any complaints I had. it seems like a taboo to have anything negative to say about the experience of carrying and birthing a baby.
I gained less than two stone when I was pregnant because I threw up every day. I got told how lucky I was. Yes lucky me being so sick but at least I stayed slim and had a neat bump, that’s what matters most. You don’t want to be one of those fat pregnant women 🙄Midwife: How is mum* doing?Me: I’m struggling with still throwing up all the time and…Midwife: You’ve not gained any extra weight which is good. Well done.Me: I…* You lose your name. As soon as you get the positive pregnancy result medical professionals start calling you mum.
This happened to my cousin. She didn't go fully blind but she went from "needs glasses to drive or read something really far away" to "is completely helpless without very strong glasses" during her pregnancy and it never went back to normal. She was also furious that everyone made light of it and went "Oh yeah, this can happen during pregnancy and is often permanent. But a baby is sooooo worth it!" because as it was happening she was really scared she would go fully blind and never even see her baby. Permanently losing your damn eyesight is a big deal. Doesn't matter if you love your baby or not.
This kind of reminds me of when I got COVID and it completely messed up my menstrual cycle. Longer, irregular periods, very heavy bleeding and huge clots, cramps like I had never experienced them... and I wasn't the only woman I know this happened to. Do you know what every single doctor said to me? "As far as we know it doesn't impact your fertility, that's great, right?". And that was the end of it. No treatment, no advice, no research. Because obviously it doesn't matter if women are in pain and discomfort every single month as long as we can still pop out babies.
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Another reason added to the long list of reasons of why I'm thankfully childfree.
This is awful. Women really get a bad deal with childbirth and more research should be done into helping mothers and prioritising their health, rather than focusing on whether they've 'put on weight' or 'bounced back'.That said, I wouldn't be surprised if this is part of a genetic trend. I've heard that some women go up a foot size when they're pregnant, others continue to menstruate while pregnant etc. From what I've seen and heard, it tends to run in families. If you're in the position to ask your female relatives about their pregnancies, this usually gives you a good insight on what yours might be like.
Never heard of this, but I almost died from blood loss. I'm also pretty sure that I had postpartum depression, but never saw anyone for it back then...
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I thought I couldn’t get any more childfree
Adding this to the long, long list of comebacks to men who are all "but I dont like wearing condoms". Boo hoo, loser. I dont like going blind!
I can’t say one way or another if that is true, wouldn’t be surprised if it is, but there are many many risks to child birth that I think are massively understated to women. I know I was uninformed about a lot of things surrounding pregnancy and child birth.
everyone told me how great I was gonna feel being pregnant and how i was gonna be “glowing” when I felt like crap the whole time and had such bad heartburn that I could barely eat and was throwing up acid most nights. And I just felt angry a lot, when I’d had a fairly even temperament before.
and you can literally tear yourself a new asshole(ask me how I know!) and not be able to sit properly for weeks. And post partum the constipation for the first few days is painful. Didn’t even get to post partum depression yet-that is the worst part And you don’t know when it will end!
not saying I regret it at all or trying to actively deter women from considering having children. But I do think that even women sort of gaslight other women into thinking they should expect a rosy, pleasant magical experience when it comes with lots of risks to physical and mental health (not to mention there is still a pretty high death rate for women giving birth in even more developed countries) I really wish someone had given me the truth. instead I was made to feel guilty for any complaints I had. it seems like a taboo to have anything negative to say about the experience of carrying and birthing a baby.
This happened to my cousin. She didn't go fully blind but she went from "needs glasses to drive or read something really far away" to "is completely helpless without very strong glasses" during her pregnancy and it never went back to normal. She was also furious that everyone made light of it and went "Oh yeah, this can happen during pregnancy and is often permanent. But a baby is sooooo worth it!" because as it was happening she was really scared she would go fully blind and never even see her baby. Permanently losing your damn eyesight is a big deal. Doesn't matter if you love your baby or not.
This kind of reminds me of when I got COVID and it completely messed up my menstrual cycle. Longer, irregular periods, very heavy bleeding and huge clots, cramps like I had never experienced them... and I wasn't the only woman I know this happened to. Do you know what every single doctor said to me? "As far as we know it doesn't impact your fertility, that's great, right?". And that was the end of it. No treatment, no advice, no research. Because obviously it doesn't matter if women are in pain and discomfort every single month as long as we can still pop out babies.
Another reason added to the long list of reasons of why I'm thankfully childfree.
This is awful. Women really get a bad deal with childbirth and more research should be done into helping mothers and prioritising their health, rather than focusing on whether they've 'put on weight' or 'bounced back'. That said, I wouldn't be surprised if this is part of a genetic trend. I've heard that some women go up a foot size when they're pregnant, others continue to menstruate while pregnant etc. From what I've seen and heard, it tends to run in families. If you're in the position to ask your female relatives about their pregnancies, this usually gives you a good insight on what yours might be like.
I never heard of this but we really do get screwed over don't we?
https://www.kidspot.com.au/parenting/mum-couldnt-see-baby-at-birth-because-she-lost-her-sight-while-pregnant/news-story/adcdf8a53dbf45eb2b89c40d221cb393?amp Polish woman got blind and sued gov: https://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pmc/articles/PMC1370996/
Never heard of this, but I almost died from blood loss. I'm also pretty sure that I had postpartum depression, but never saw anyone for it back then...
My neighbour's daughter in law wasn't allowed to deliver vaginally due to her bad eye sight.